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\\u201cDo you regret going to law school?\\u201d I get this all the time.

Why would I waste a single second regretting something I can\\u2019t change?\\xa0

No matter how much I replay it, beat myself up, blame other people, think about how much better my life would be if I didn\\u2019t go...

It won\\u2019t change the fact that I went to law school.\\xa0

So instead of wasting my time on something I can\\u2019t change, I focus on what I want to do with my life from here on out.\\xa0

That doesn\\u2019t mean that I can\\u2019t learn from my past decisions.

I look back and evaluate why I choose to go:

\\u27a4 where was I abandoning myself for other people\\u2019s approval?

\\u27a4 where was I seeking validation instead of listening to my gut?

\\u27a4 where was I simply doing what I was told instead of questioning it?

I do all of that so that I can make better decisions in the future.

But that doesn\\u2019t mean I ever spend the time regretting my decision.

Because it is done.

And I had my reasons (even if I wouldn\\u2019t choose those reasons now).

And I can have self-compassion for the old me who didn\\u2019t know any better.

And I gain nothing by torturing myself with regret.

Because regret comes from a thought.

The thought: \\u201cIf I hadn\\u2019t made that decision, my life would be so much better.\\u201d

And that\\u2019s a lie.

I have no idea how my life would have turned out.

So I choose not to think that thought.

And you can choose the same thing.\\xa0

Because regret is a choice.