How being a people-pleaser keeps you stuck
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Hi, my name is Goli and I\'m a life-long people-pleaser.\\u2060 \\u2060 I have a feeling a lot of you are too. Because we\'re trained from childhood to just do what we\'re told and not make waves.\\u2060
And while I used to understand that this tendency made me overly agreeable, overly apologetic (hello, women?), and obsessed with making sure everyone liked me, I didn\'t realize how much it actually kept me stuck in my career.\\u2060 \\u2060 Tendencies like overachieving or perfectionism are just symptoms of the need to be liked. We think that if we just tick off the next accomplishment, like getting the promotion or making partner, or we turn in the perfect work product, then everyone will be happy and, in turn, we\'ll be happy.\\u2060 \\u2060 But I don\'t have to tell you that it doesn\'t work that way.\\u2060 \\u2060 We just move the goalposts. Maybe excelling at the next thing will finally make it all worthwhile. (Spoiler alert: it won\'t).\\u2060 \\u2060 So we stay in a career we hate because the idea of other people\'s opinions weighs heavier than our own happiness.\\u2060 \\u2060 How will I explain that I don\'t want to do this? Who am I if I\'m not [insert "successful" profession here]?\\u2060 \\u2060 This week on the podcast, I dive all into the nature of our people-pleasing and how to start climbing your way out of this suffocating tendency.\\u2060
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