126: What to Do if You Feel Defensive All the Time

Published: Nov. 22, 2022, 5 a.m.

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Does it feel like you\\u2019re constantly defending yourself at work? This can turn into a downward spiral of defensiveness that can be very draining (for you and your team) and unhelpful for your career progress.\\xa0

But did you know there are some tested tools and techniques to help you with this? (It\\u2019s true, my love - I\\u2019ve helped clients with this very thing!)\\xa0

Let\\u2019s talk about what to do if you\\u2019re feeling defensive at work.\\xa0

In today\\u2019s episode, I\\u2019m sharing my biggest takeaways on defensiveness in the workplace - how it manifests in our leadership & teams, the psychology of what\\u2019s going on, and my favorite tips for tackling it.\\xa0

Ready to break the cycle and feel calmer and happier in your career?\\xa0

Let\\u2019s go to the show!

I dive into:

  • The defensiveness spiral, what it is & how to shift out of it
  • My favorite tools and techniques for MORE collaboration and LESS defensiveness in your career
  • How unconscious bias & imposter syndrome are related and what to shift here to become less defensive
  • One of the BEST ways to diagnose defensiveness
  • My TOP TIPS to help you deal with difficult colleagues and react better to feedback & bad news
  • Why I want you to prioritize THIS for 1 month to tackle defensive behavior
  • And more

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**Useful links**

  • If you are ready to uplevel your career, and get a boost (and a salary bump) by shortcutting your way to success, find out more about Toni\\u2019s Coaching at:\\xa0https://tonicollis.com/workwithtoni\\xa0

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