Relationships don't just happen.\xa0 They grow.\xa0 We aren't machines.\xa0 Ancient cultures likened us to trees and fruit -- this is us.\xa0 Every relationship with a spouse, a child, a friend, a parent, or a boss -- grows from something into something.\xa0 \xa0The best relationships start with nothing on but our identity.\xa0 And from that they give and give - and become something the world desperately needs.