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When you think of empathy you may think of being overpowered with feelings and emotions for someone close to you that is having a response to something. Possibly you lump sympathy in the same basket with empathy and toss kindness in for good measure. Stanford professor and psychologist, Jamil Saki, joins me to not only break down the distinction between empathy and sympathy, but also explains the reason that empathy is critical to success and achieving goals. Understanding how empathy is so closely connected to how we advance as communities and build stronger relationships is life changing.\xa0Order Jamil Zaki\u2019s new book, The War for Kindness: https://www.amazon.com/War-Kindness-Building-Empathy-Fractured/dp/0451499247\xa0War For Kindness Empathy Gym: https://www.warforkindness.com/challenges\xa0\n\nSHOW NOTES:\nWar For Kindness | Jamil explains the oxymoron and the need to fight separation [0:26]\nDarwin Debunked | Jamil on how much more successful species are working together [2:26]\nKindness Wins | 2 ways kindness is proven to be evolutionary winner & key to success [4:04]\nCollaborative Intelligence | Why humans have evolved intelligence to collaborate and win [6:10]\nCooperation | Jamil on the effectiveness of cooperation to advance culture and society [9:24]\nEmpathy | Jamil on why empathy is a vital skill for relationships and achieving goals [10:34]\nDefining Empathy | 3 parts that define the full range of empathy for connecting to others [11:56]\nEmpathy & Kindness | Why you can have one without the other and how it\u2019s less healthy [13:00]\nSympathy | Why Jamil avoids this term and feels the word has been compromised [14:19]\nHelpful Empathy | Jamil explains why certain parts empathy are not always useful [20:13]\nSurvival Skill | How Jamil landed on his passion for exploring empathy as psychologist [21:57]\nParochial Empathy | Jamil on how conflict leads us to selective empathy [26:24]\nTrain Up Empathy | Jamil shares ways to build and improve empathy [30:08]\nRwanda Genocide | How story-telling is being used to heal and finding empathy [34:27]\nContact | How prejudice & hatred are easiest at a distance and how Tony found empathy [38:33]\xa0\n\nCheck out our sponsors: \nButcher Box: Bacon for Life is back! New members get a package of FREE bacon in every box for the life of the subscription at ButcherBox.com/impact\nMindPump: Download their FREE guide at fatlossimpact.com\nAudible: Start listening with a 30-day free trial, one free audiobook and access to the Plus Catalog. Visit audible.com/IMPACTTHEORY \nTen Thousand: Go to tenthousand.cc and enter code IMPACT to receive 15% off your purchase!\n\nAre You Ready for EXTRA Impact?\nIf you\u2019re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you.\nThis is not for the faint of heart. This is for those who dare to learn obsessively, every day, day after day.\nSubscription Benefits:\n\nUnlock the gates to a treasure trove of wisdom from inspiring guests like Andrew Huberman, Mel Robbins, Hal Elrod, Matthew McConaughey, and many, many, more\n\nNew episodes delivered ad-free\n\nExclusive access to Tom\u2019s AMAs, keynote speeches, and suggestions from his personal reading list\n\nYou\u2019ll also get access to an 5 additional podcasts with hundreds of archived Impact Theory episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists covering health, mindset, business, relationships, and more:\n\n\nLegendary Mindset: Mindset & Self-Improvement\n\n\nMoney Mindset: Business & Finance\n\n\nRelationship Theory: Relationships\n\n\nHealth Theory: Mental & Physical Health\n\n\nPower Ups: Weekly Doses of Short Motivational Quotes\xa0\n\nSubscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3PCvJaz\nSubscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices