7. My parents keep expecting us to pay for them
b'Barry is a first-generation Pakistani immigrant. His wife, Maria, is also Pakistani and was born and raised in the United States. Cultural expectations are making it difficult to get aligned on their joint finances.\\nBarry has grown up living under a set of unwritten cultural rules whereby the son is expected to take care of his parents financially. They\\u2019re paying for family dinners and charity donations right now, but Barry strongly suspects his parents are anticipating moving in with them after they retire.\\xa0\\nMaria has been biting her lip so far. She wants financial freedom, but knows she cannot change Barry. He must acknowledge \\u2013 and possibly reprogram \\u2013 the dialog around money between him and his family.\\xa0\\nSome of this episode will sound confusing if you\\u2019re listening to it from a Western perspective, but these cultural scripts that Barry grew up with are very real. (Imagine if I told you that it \\u201cmight not make financial sense to purchase a house\\u201d \\u2013 that rattles the Western cultural code many people grew up with, which is why they get so angry when I point it out!).\\xa0\\nIt\\u2019s unsettling and uncomfortable to challenge. I know because I\\u2019ve been in the same situation as Barry, juggling different expectations from Indian parents.\\nBarry needs to move from \\u201cconvincing\\u201d his parents to fully owning his financial decisions and vocalizing that with love and firm boundaries. Listen to our conversation to hear what that looks like for them and how they plan to compromise between their financial goals and family expectations.\\nConnect with Ramit\\n\\nWebsite\\n\\nInstagram\\n\\nTwitter\\n\\nFacebook\\n\\nYouTube\\n\\nLinkedin\\n\\n\\nProduced by Crate Media.'