Ep 5: Struggling With Loss (Youre Not Alone!)
b'We never planned on recording this episode, but you know how much it matters to us to be open and honest with you. We\\u2019ll never pretend that everything is perfect; we value you enough that we want to be vulnerable with you.\\nNot long ago, we announced that we were pregnant. Jamie felt deep down that this was going to be a great pregnancy\\u2026 until she started spotting. This can be totally normal for some women and some pregnancies, but Jamie had the exact same symptoms with our angel baby, Jonathan. Unfortunately, for us, the spotting indicated that there was a problem.\\nIf you haven\\u2019t heard, we had a (failed) miscarriage. We were so excited for this pregnancy, but part of us was guarded because we had lost a pregnancy before, even as we tried to stay positive. It\\u2019s amazing how hard it is to stay calm and stress-free while accepting that you can\\u2019t control whether your pregnancy has a successful outcome.\\nOf course, this brings up a lot of complicated thoughts and emotions. We\\u2019re so happy for our friends who are due around the same time we were, but at the same time, it\\u2019s impossible to avoid feeling sorrow that we\\u2019re not going to be having a baby with them. Something we\\u2019re grateful for is that we went against the conventional wisdom of waiting to tell people about a pregnancy; how can they support you through your loss if you don\\u2019t tell them? On that note, we\\u2019re so grateful for the outpouring of love. Thank you for helping us to get through things.\\nIf you\\u2019re wondering what you should (and shouldn\\u2019t) say to someone who has suffered from a loss, don\\u2019t miss this episode. We\\u2019ll discuss some tips, and list some specific things you absolutely shouldn\\u2019t say (even if they\\u2019re true for us). For example, don\\u2019t ever say things like, \\u201cAt least you know you can get pregnant,\\u201d \\u201cYou weren\\u2019t that far along,\\u201d or \\u201cThis miscarriage must be easier than the last one.\\u201d Things you can say include, \\u201cI\\u2019m thinking of you,\\u201d \\u201cThis baby will never be forgotten,\\u201d \\u201cI\\u2019m so sorry for your loss,\\u201d and \\u201cI can\\u2019t imagine what you\\u2019re going through.\\u201d Even better is to sit and just listen!\\nWe don\\u2019t want you to ever feel alone. If you\\u2019ve suffered with fertility in any way, and you feel like there\\u2019s no one you can talk to about it, please reach out to us! So many of us go through these things, and no one should ever feel like they don\\u2019t have someone on their side.\\nFinally, we\\u2019ll chat about Jamie\\u2019s book, Wifey 101! Tune into the episode to hear what it\\u2019s about and get a taste of what you\\u2019ll read when you buy it. (Plus you\\u2019ll learn how to get a signed copy!)\\nLinks and Resources:\\n Married at First Sight\\n Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. on YouTube\\nJamie Otis\\n Wifey 101 by Jamie Otis\\nhotmarriagecoolparents on Instagram\\nJamie Otis on Instagram\\nDoug Hehner on Instagram\\nMiracles in the Making\\n\\n...\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'