Ep. 136 Can Couples Therapy Save Our Marriage?
b'In today\\u2019s episode, we get candid about a time when divorce was in the cards for us and share how our couple\\u2019s therapist made us aware that it wasn\\u2019t realistic to count on one person to be everything to each of us. You\\u2019ll hear how our therapist managed to identify that Doug\\u2019s habit of speaking in an announcer\\u2019s voice is stonewalling, and how she showed us that it is damaging to our relationship. The purpose of this podcast is to connect with you! We tell you how we learn and grow from your contribution and answer a listener question about why the producers of Married at First Sight paired us with one another, before telling you what we are constantly learning from one another. We discuss the guy Jamie dated before she met Doug and the story of how we are still friends with the girl Doug lost his virginity to. Jamie records a voice note after a session with a couple\\u2019s therapist and shares her thoughts on boundaries, and how her childhood has shaped who she is today. One of the main things we hope you take from this episode is that spreading yourself too thin serves nobody, least of all you! Please join us for some powerful insights from our personal journey today.\\n\\nKey Points From This Episode:\\n\\n\\nHow our therapist helped save our marriage from the brink of divorce.\\n\\nWhat we learned from therapy: you can\\u2019t count on one person to be everything.\\n\\nHow Jamie used the voice recorder on her phone as a form of therapy.\\n\\nDoug\\u2019s \\u2018announcer voice\\u2019 and how this stonewalls Jamie in situations of conflict.\\n\\nHow you can get in touch via email or social media with your questions.\\n\\nThe main aim of Hot Marriage Cool Parents, which is to connect with you!\\n\\nDoug\\u2019s endorsement of Manly Bands and their range that you can customize.\\n\\nListener question: what did the producers find compatible about Doug and Jamie? \\n\\n\\nHow Doug has shown Jamie how to get comfortable in her own skin and how Jamie has taught Doug to have drive about everything he does.\\n\\nJamie shares why the person she dated before Doug was a great guy, but not suited to her.\\n\\nHow Doug stayed friends with the girl he lost his virginity to.\\n\\nJamie\\u2019s voice note that she recorded in her car after a couple\\u2019s therapy session.\\n\\nHow finding the right fit in a therapist has been a huge game changer for us.\\n\\nHow putting yourself last doesn\\u2019t make you reliable, but is a way to try to get the love and acceptance of people around you.\\n\\nThe effect of having no boundaries, which is resentment.\\n\\nHow having boundaries benefits absolutely everyone in your life.\\n\\nThe story of how Jamie\\u2019s mother turned to drugs and put her family\\u2019s needs aside.\\n\\nHow she realized that setting boundaries helps her please herself and put her family first.\\n\\nWhat Jamie identified about spreading herself too thin: that she\\u2019s no good to anyone, including herself!\\n\\n\\nFor All Things HMCP, Check Out Our Instagram Handles:\\n\\nHot Marriage. Cool Parents. \\u2014 https://www.instagram.com/hotmarriagecoolparents/\\nJamie \\u2014 https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/\\nDoug \\u2014 https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/\\n\\nAnd Thank You to Our Sponsors:\\nManly Bands - Get 21% off plus a free silicone ring by going to manlybands.com/hotmarriage\\nDBS Alliance -\\xa0To learn more about how you can start conversations about mental health and suicide in your community, visit dbsalliance.org/suicide-prevention\\xa0\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'