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In G. K. Chesterton\u2019s Orthodoxy, he tells a sort of parable in which children are given space to play on a mountain top surrounded by steep precipices on all sides. At first the children are left to play on the mountain top without any walls. Fearful of falling off one of the edges, they all huddle up in the middle. Then, walls are erected, and the security that such walls provide gives the children the confidence they need to play without fear of falling.\xa0

A father\u2019s loving presence can act like such walls in the lives of his children. Yet, at times, the practical realities of life make it difficult for fathers to be fully present in such a way.\xa0

This week on HeightsCasts, we feature a talk given by headmaster Alvaro de Vicente on the topic of paternal presence, originally offered at our recent fatherhood conference. Although there are no set manuals for successful parenting, in his talk Mr. de Vicente suggests four areas that fathers can consider as they examine the ways they may or may not be present in their children\u2019s lives:\xa0

1. The importance of paternal presence\xa0
2. The obstacles to paternal presence\xa0
   1. Professional work\xa0
   2. Personal interests\xa0
   3. Difficult children
3. The types of presence
   1. Physical\xa0
   2. Intellectual\xa0
   3. Moral\xa0
   4. Spiritual\xa0
4. The stages of presence\xa0
   1. Holding the hand
   2. Holding the back of the bike
   3. Holding the second steering wheel
   4. Holding the phone

In the end, Alvaro encourages fathers to behave as they would wish their sons to behave when they reach their own age. But when they fail, he also reminds them of St. Mother Teresa of Calcutta\u2019s words: \u201cGod doesn't ask that we succeed in everything, but that we are faithfull.\u201d.\xa0\xa0

Chapters\xa0

• 0:14 WelcomeStart
• 2:15 The importance of presence\xa0
• 5:00 Some challenges to being present\xa0
• 11:40 DSuggestions for dealing with those challenges\xa0
• 12:50 Types of presence\xa0
  • 13:00 Physical\xa0
  • 18:55 Intellectual\xa0
  • 27:35 Moral
  • 29:00 Spiritual\xa0
• 33:10 Stages of presence\xa0
• 37:40 Takeaways and concluding thoughts\xa0

Also on the Forum\xa0

Friendship for Fathers: On Living and Teaching the Art with Prof. John Cuddeback\xa0

The Bedrock Principle of Fatherhood with Andy Reed

The Father and His Family: On Fatherhood with Michael Moynihan\xa0

Parenting from Fear: On Reasons for Confidence with Alvaro de Vicente\xa0

Parental Authority: On Our Role with Dr. Leonard Sax