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Be careful that in encouraging a grade, you don\u2019t shortchange growth; for a grade ought to be a means to growth, helping students\u2014and their parents\u2014see where they are so they can know where to go. Ideally, grades are the beginning of a conversation about what lies underneath the surface: the \u201cwhy\u201d beneath the \u201cwhat\u201d.\xa0

In today\u2019s episode, Heights Headmaster Alvaro de Vicente guides us through a nuanced discussion on how parents can understand, interpret, and respond to their sons\u2019 grades while nurturing strong and lasting bonds. Acknowledging that grades serve as a judgment of the quality of a young man\u2019s work at a given time, Mr. de Vicente sheds light on strategies to decipher the meaning behind the letters and numbers. Is it a problem of time, habits, or effort? Is it a helpful indicator of aptitude?\xa0\xa0

Regardless of the cause or cure, Alvaro reminds us that even more important than helping to raise a grade, is strengthening the bond parents have with their son.\xa0

Chapters\xa0

• 2:30 Defining grades

• 3:30 Grades: more than a necessary evil

• 5:00 How parents should approach grades\xa0

• 7:28 Digging into the \u201cwhy\u201d behind a grade

• 9:35 Elements of a grade: intelligence, time, habits, effort

• 14:45 Optimal Work and grades\xa0

• 16:55 Why boys need to own their grades

• 21:00 Evolving relationship with grades\xa0

• 24:00 Growth over grades

• 26:00 Respecting a school\u2019s professional competence\xa0

• 29:35 What your tone communicates\xa0

• 36:35 Internal motivation\xa0

• 40:00 How to reframe as a parent

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