Friendship and the 21st Century Boy
The real problem for many today is not ADD; it is, rather, what Headmaster Alvaro de Vicente refers to as IDD: intimacy deficit disorder. This problem is even worse for men, who on average have fewer close friends. Studies indicate that the percentage of males who report having at least six close friends has been cut in half since the 1990s. There is, it would seem, a recession in male friendships. While there is no easy panacea for this problem, as with most things, one\u2019s education can have a lasting impact on how a child learns\u2014or doesn\u2019t learn\u2014to relate to others.\xa0
This week we feature a recording of the annual Headmaster\u2019s Lecture titled \u201cFriendship and the 21st-Century Boy.\u201d In the lecture, Alvaro discusses what friendship is and how to help children\u2014and young boys, in particular\u2014foster healthy friendships. He discusses contemporary obstacles to friendship and why growth in maturity is necessary for true, deep, and lasting friendships. He also offers a few words on what parents can do about bad friends\u2014or, rather, friends with bad characteristics.\xa0
In the end, Alvaro gives some practical advice for how parents and educators can set the stage for the formation of what Cicero called \u201cthe greatest of all gifts from the gods,\u201d friendship.\xa0
Chapters\xa0
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4:42 Introduction\xa0
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6:10 What is friendship?\xa0
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8:47 Fostering friendship by common action\xa0
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12:02 Intimacy\xa0
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17:41 Why maturity is necessary\xa0
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21:26 Characteristics of maturity in friendship\xa0
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26:09 What to do about \u201cbad friends\u201d?\xa0
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30:32 Should parents intervene in their children\u2019s friendships?
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32:17 How to separate your son from a bad influence
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39:27 Specific challenges to boy friendship in the 21st century\xa0
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50:50 Challenge of living in a hypersexualized environment
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54:02 Practical ideas\xa0