#254 How To Read Body Language and Become More Confident with Vanessa Van Edwards
Today\u2019s conversation is all about cues - the small signals that we give and pick up that have a big impact. The head tilt, the smile, the open-palmed gesture \u2013\xa0they all carry meaning that people intuitively understand. And if you\u2019ve ever felt misunderstood, overlooked or underestimated, you can change that by using the right cues. Everything from the way you walk into a room to how you stand, your choice of words to your intonation, can affect how people perceive you. \nMy guest today is Vanessa Van Edwards, an expert in body language, facial expressions, and nonverbal communication. Her latest book Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication is packed with practical tools and exercises to help you understand more about others \u2013 and communicate your own ideas with warmth and competence.\nVanessa likes to introduce herself as a \u2018recovering awkward person\u2019. She certainly doesn\u2019t come across as awkward anymore, in fact she exudes confidence and charisma. And during our conversation, she reveals some of the tricks that helped transform her. \nShe begins by explaining that confidence and charisma are unique to each of us. You don\u2019t have to be an extrovert to have confidence in what you do and say. She defines charisma as the combination of competence and warmth and says these two components are essential for trust. Research has shown that when people assess one another, what they\u2019re looking to find out is, \u2018Can I trust you?\u2019 followed by, \u2018Can I rely on you?\u2019 By identifying and using the cues that convey trust and reliability, we can instantly come across as more charismatic and likeable. \nBut it\u2019s not just about how we want to come across. Understanding the cues other people are giving us can help us deal with conflict and build better connections. Arguably, there is nothing more important because at our core we all want to belong, to understand and be understood.\nI\u2019m convinced that mastering cues can help us improve communication and nourish connection in all areas of our lives, from business to romance. This was such a fun and uplifting conversation that is full of practical tips that you can use immediately. I hope you enjoy listening.\xa0\nThanks to our sponsors:\nhttps://www.blublox.com/livemore\nhttps://www.athleticgreens.com/livemore\nhttps://www.leafyard.com/livemore\nOrder Dr Chatterjee's new book\xa0Happy Mind, Happy Life: UK version: https://amzn.to/304opgJ, US & Canada version: https://amzn.to/3DRxjgp\nShow notes available at\xa0https://drchatterjee.com/254\nDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified health care provider with any questions you have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.\n Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.