#246 How To Let Go, Move On And Leave Your Past In Your Past with Julia Samuel
Why does family matter so much to us? As today\u2019s guest, renowned psychotherapist Julia Samuel explains, every client she\u2019s seen in 30 years of practice, mentions their family members. Like it or not, we all carry our upbringing into our adult lives. Our family is wired in us genetically and it shows in our responses to life, our beliefs, and the \u2018fault lines\u2019 that trigger us in daily life. Could finding out more about our families be the key to knowing more about ourselves?\nJulia\u2019s new book, Every Family Has A Story: How We Inherit Love and Loss is a powerful exploration of what we inherit, what we can change, and how inter-family relationships inform all aspects of our lives. Often unknowingly, we are a product of how our older relatives have coped with their experiences. It even shows up in our genes! Julia and I explore this subject of transgenerational trauma \u2013 or how our present-day struggles probably didn\u2019t start with us (but learning and forgiveness can).\nIn order to protect our children and grandchildren, Julia says, we need to process our feelings so we don\u2019t pass them on. This might mean uncovering the secrets and untold stories from generations above you. And if that sounds daunting to put into practice, she has some wonderful advice for facilitating difficult conversations. We also discuss generational conflicts over parenting techniques, setting boundaries, and how to be compassionate and respectful with family members while also recognising and protecting your own needs.\nWhatever your family situation \u2013\xa0whether you\u2019re close, estranged or somewhere in between \u2013 there\u2019s something we can all take from Julia\u2019s powerful, original approach.\nCaution: contains mild swearing.\nThanks to our sponsors:\n\xa0\nhttps://www.leafyard.com/livemore\n\xa0\nhttps://www.vivobarefoot.com/livemore\n\xa0\nhttps://www.athleticgreens.com/livemore\nOrder Dr Chatterjee's new book\xa0Happy Mind, Happy Life:\nUK version: https://amzn.to/304opgJ\nUS & Canada version: https://amzn.to/3DRxjgp\n\xa0\nShow notes available at\xa0https://drchatterjee.com/246\nSupport the podcast and enjoy Ad-Free episodes. Try FREE for 7 days on Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/3oAKmxi. For other podcast platforms go to https://fblm.supercast.com.\nDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified health care provider with any questions you have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.\n Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.