BROADCASTS.com

CAUTION ADVISED: this podcast contains mild bad language and themes of an adult nature.\nToday\u2019s conversation is all about one of my favourite topics \u2013 compassion. But it\u2019s not about compassion for others, it\u2019s about compassion for ourselves and how this can lead to a happier and healthier life. Self-compassion is not only linked to better emotional health, it is important for our physical and mental health too. In fact, there are now over 3000 studies showing the amazing benefits of self-compassion on our wellbeing and my guest this week is one of the leading researchers in this area and along with several others, is responsible for putting self-compassion on the scientific map. Dr Kristin Neff is a professor at the University of Texas in the department of psychology. She\u2019s co-founder of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion and the author of several best-selling books on the topic.\nIn our conversation, Kristin explains what self-compassion is and why it matters. She explains the difference between self-compassion and self-esteem. Self-compassion is not about making excuses for yourself nor is it about self-pity, instead, it is very much an active, mindful state. Now I know from my patients that the very notion of self-love can make a lot of people feel very uncomfortable. Kristin explains why this might be and shares many different ways we can give ourselves compassion. She recommends that people experiment and find a method that feels easy and pleasant for them.\nWe also talk about the ever-present problem of our brain\u2019s \u2018inner critic\u2019 and how our parents influence the way we talk to ourselves. She also explains why self-compassion is most definitely not selfish, in fact, people who have it are kinder, more loving and less controlling of others.\nKristin also makes a key distinction between acts of self-care \u2013 such as taking a bath, having a massage \u2013 and self-compassion. She explains that self-compassion is actually a state of mind. It\u2019s not something you have to do, it doesn\u2019t take time or resources. It\u2019s simply the opposite of being self-critical. It\u2019s a way of thinking that has your own best interests at heart. But, this way of thinking doesn\u2019t come naturally to us. As humans, we are hard-wired for self-criticism - it\u2019s an evolutionary mechanism that makes us feel safe. But when navigating life, who do you want in your head: an enemy who belittles you or a friend who supports you?\nAt the end of our conversation today, Kristin takes us through a beautiful practical exercise in finding self-compassion that I think you will really enjoy.\xa0This is such an important topic that doesn\u2019t get spoken about enough in the conversation around health \u2013 I hope you enjoy listening.\nShow notes available at\xa0https://drchatterjee.com/163\nFollow me on\xa0instagram.com/drchatterjee/\nFollow me on\xa0facebook.com/DrChatterjee/\nFollow me on\xa0twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk\nDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.\n Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.