Invalidating Each Others Feelings - The Sneaky Ways You Do This To Each Other & How To Stop Episode 85
So here you are, trying to share with your partner something that is important to you and something that you feel emotion around\u2026 Then they say something like: \u201cyou are overreacting, it\u2019s not that big of a deal\u201d,\xa0 or even \u201cthat doesn\u2019t make sense!\u201d
You immediately feel invalidated and maybe that your feelings don\u2019t matter, right? This causes many upsets and conflicts for couples and at the very least, disconnects you from love and understanding from your partner.\xa0
Today\u2019s topic came from a coaching session we had this week, in which we then posted this question to our couples community: \u201cDo you ever notice that you feel your emotions are invalidated by your partner, what has you feel that way?\u201d There were many replies and great examples of the words and actions that caused people to feel invalidated (we will cover a number of them).\xa0
From this episode you\u2019ll take away:
- What causes you to feel invalidated
- The 3 reasons why this is used as a\xa0 defensive mechanism
- The new actions to take to keep from invalidating each other\u2019s emotions
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Quotes:
\u201cYes there are universal truths, but there are also personal truths, for both you and your partner. What you BOTH are feeling right now are both true for YOU!\u201d - Aaron\xa0
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