Letting Go Of People Who No Longer Want You
Have you ever asked yourself why is it that we have a hard time letting go of people that have made it clear, they don\u2019t want us? I think it has to do with the fact that we didn\u2019t make the decision to leave them first. Let\u2019s unpack this a little bit:\n\n\n1. Remember It\u2019s Not About You. When people choose to walk out of your life, it\u2019s a choice they are making for some reason or other. They are looking out for their wellbeing and their happiness. When this happens, let them go, don\u2019t ever try to hold onto someone that doesn\u2019t want to be held onto. For what? Why do you want them to be unhappy? Why do you want to be with someone that doesn\u2019t want to be with you? Peoples wants, desires, needs, and likes will change over time, and you must except that.\n\n2. Some Relationships Are Toxic And Should Never Have Been. While you may love that person and they may love you, it\u2019s mentally draining to one or both people and you don\u2019t want to let go, because you are afraid of what people are going to say or think. Stop trying to keep toxic people around hoping they will change because chances are they won\u2019t.\n\n3. Change Happened. Change happens and it\u2019s not always for the better. Either you changed or they changed, but\neither way a change happened, and neither of you are the person you were when you first met. \n\n4. Their Season Has Ended. Everybody comes into our life for a season or a reason. You mess up when you try to keep people in your life past their time. Seasonal people were never meant to be in your life for a lifetime and when you try to keep them longer, you end up making a mess of things. Remember that song from the movie Coolie High (It\u2019s so hard to say goodbye to yesterday and I\u2019ll take with me, the memories to be my sunshine after the rain).\n\n\n5. There Is No More Trust. Once trust is broken, there is nothing else left to hold onto and chances are, either you are going to leave them, or they are going to leave you. People will often leave if you, if one has broken the others trust too many times and they are tired of forgiving you. This is why it\u2019s so important to learn from your mistakes and then move on.\n\nLet me leave you with this quote:\n\xa0\n\u201cThere comes a point in your life when you realize: Who matters, who never did, who won\u2019t anymore, and who always will. So, don\u2019t worry about people from your past, there\u2019s a reason why they didn\u2019t make it to your future.\u201d \u2015 Adam Lindsay Gordon\n\nGo out there and be the reason someone feels welcomed, seen, heard, loved, and supported! As you do that, go out there and be great, because great is calling you and great is calling me. Be blessed, have an amazing day on purpose, and we will talk again next week.\n\xa0\nContact Me: Linktree: https://linktr.ee/coachchelle\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n--- \n\nSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/michelle4466/support