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Here\u2019s how to make getting through hard times less difficult:\n\n1. Stay Positive. \u201cLife is not the way it\u2019s supposed to be, it\u2019s the way it is. The way you cope is what makes the difference.\u201d \u2013 Virginia Satir When you stay positive, you\u2019re putting yourself in the best position possible to not only make it through those bad times, but also to become a better person in the process. When life takes a turn for the worst, you can do one of two things: You can remain positive and remind yourself that there really is a light at the end of the tunnel and that you\u2019ll make it through, or you can curl up in the fetal position and become a victim of circumstance. Now I\u2019m not saying you will never have a bad day, or you won\u2019t get a little discouraged, or shed a tear (or two). But I am saying you have to eventually pick up the pieces and start and/or keep moving forward.\n\n2. Learn From the Difficult Times. \u201cFacing difficulties is inevitable, learning from them is optional.\u201d \u2013 John Maxwell Learn from what has happened, so you don\u2019t make the same mistake twice. It\u2019s easier getting through a difficult time when you know the chances of it happening again are slim to none. \n\n3. Know What You\u2019re Grateful For. Gratitude means showing appreciation for all the good in your life, instead of focusing on the negative. Get clear about what it is that you\u2019re grateful for. Write out everything in your life you can think of that you\u2019re grateful for having and/or experiencing. The difficult time you\u2019re going through will start to seem less significant when it\u2019s compared to everything that\u2019s going right in your life.\n\n4. Focus on What You Can Control, Not What You Can\u2019t. Some situations are beyond your control and no matter what you do, you can\u2019t change them. You\u2019re setting yourself up for frustration when you focus your time and energy on things you can\u2019t control. You\u2019re also making the situation seem even worse than it actually is, because you\u2019re focusing on the negatives. Instead focus on the things that are within your control because that\u2019s the only way you can make a change that\u2019s actually going to help you. Make a list of the things you can change and put all your focus on those things. Anything that\u2019s not on the list, doesn\u2019t get your attention.\n\n5. Build Up Your Community. Having the right people around you is one of the most important things you can do for yourself when times get tough. You need loving people because a little love always makes the bad days seem a little brighter. You need caring people, because it helps to have someone who cares about your well-being as much as you do. You need honest people, who will look you in the eye and tell you truth. Their honesty may be that one piece of information, you need to get through the tough time. You need people that are available, for when you need to pick up the phone looking for some compassion and/or honesty. \n\n6. Be Kind To Yourself. In order to survive tough times, you have to take care of yourself. It doesn\u2019t matter what you do, just do something that gets your mind and body engaged at a higher level than wallowing in self-pity.\n\n7. Forgive. If someone else is at fault for the bad situation you find yourself in, the natural response is to harbor anger and/or resentment towards that person. What if you forgave that person? What if you accepted what happened, and you no longer held it against them? I\u2019ll tell you what would happen, you would feel better, because now instead of focusing on the negative feelings you have toward that person, you can focus on moving forward. Or maybe the difficult time you\u2019re going through is a direct result of something that you did. If you don\u2019t or can\u2019t forgive yourself, then you get caught up in a web of self-hatred and this definitely won\u2019t help at all. \n\nContact Me:\nLinktree: https://linktr.ee/coachchelle\n\n\n\n\n \n\n\n--- \n\nSupport this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/michelle4466/support