EAP 66: Mindset Shifts - Moving past Disappointment, Despair, and Defeat

Published: April 29, 2019, 9 a.m.

Our topic on this episode of the Early Accountability Podcast is shifting your mindset to move past disappointment, despair, and defeat. These feelings can be common when you are starting something new, but they do not have to slow you down or keep you from reaching your goals. It is important to practice mindfulness and self-awareness throughout the process of starting something new, and this is especially important when you’re facing an obstacle along the way such as disappointment, despair, or defeat. Here are some specific thoughts about each of these obstacles and steps you can take to move past them:

•Disappointment:
oDisappointment comes from not meeting your expectations – Make sure that your expectations are realistic and attainable
oStay present and recognize the source of your disappointment, but don’t stay stuck – Accept it, then move forward
oOften, we have closed ourselves off to any result other than our expectations – Be open to the possibility that there might be something better than you had planned out there

•Despair:
oDespair usually comes from the discomfort of the unknown, which can make you feel hopeless
oClear your mind and realize that you have the power to create the life you want for yourself – You are not subject to that fear
oFaith is the substance of things hoped for, so you must have faith – Through positive energy and affirmations, truly come to believe in what is possible

•Defeat:
oDefeat comes from things not working out the way you wanted them to, especially in a competitive setting
oThis may feel crippling in the moment, but it does not have to be permanent – Remember that there is always more to your journey than what you can currently see
oRecount all of your victories and celebrate all of the lessons you have learned leading up to this point
oPut your current situation into perspective – Take away the lesson that you need to learn and start to apply them
oChoose not to dwell in this feeling – Trust the process

Topics Covered in this Episode:
•Mindset shifts
•Mindfulness
•Moving forward
•Pushing past disappointment, despair, and defeat
•Trusting the process