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As we continue in our conversation with the author Andy Parnham we come to the subject of healthy relationships.\xa0How do they work and how do we restore them when they go wrong? We know from our own experience that relationships are important, but the research of the psychiatrist Robert Waldinger goes as far as to say it is the number one strongest predictor of good health.
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\nDo come and join Andy Parnham and I as we look at:
\nThe following 5 principles for healthy relationships:
\n1. Prioritising people over things
\n2. Becoming the kind of person other people want to be with.
\n3. Finding someone you can trust you can share yourself with.
\n4. Being willing to let go and not to be simply grasping of relationships.
\n5. Finding a place and a people to belong to.
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\nWe unpack Andy\u2019s conclusion of the reaseach:
\n\u201dIt appears that the capacity to relate to other people is hard-wired into our brains and that such relating is at the heart of human flourishing. Relationships are primarily a function of the right brain, with its emphasis on implicit, unconscious, non-verbal processes. Emotions are essential to the development and nurture of all healthy relationships.\u201d (P.127)
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\n\u201dAnyone who has achieved lasting happiness\xa0and contentment has acquired the capacity to spend time both alone and with others without a sense of insecurity and inadequacy.\u201d (P. 133)
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\nHow we can only relate to others in a healthy manner when we have learnt to live in our own skin in a healthy way. Psychologists refer to this as differentiation. Someone who has successfully differentiated themself is able to:
\n1. Be clear about who you are (\u2018define\u2019 yourself) and yet stay in touch with others.
\n2. Take responsibility for yourself, yet.... Be responsive to others.
\n3. Maintain your integrity and wellbeing without..... Intruding on that of others.
\n4. Allow the enhancement of another person\u2019s integrity and wellbeing without ....... Feeling abandonment,inferior or less of a self.
\n5. Have an \u2018I\u2019 and enter a relationship with another \u2018I\u2019 without losing yourself and diminishing the other person\u2019s self.
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\nThe importance and power of learning to forgive.
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\nAfter listening to our conversation what questions, comments and reflections on relationships do you have?