Ep. 11: Gay Liberation, Writing, Death Threats, and Recovering Faith - A Conversation with Author Thom Nickels

Published: Oct. 18, 2017, 5:49 p.m.

b'Thom Nickels interview.\\nRain storm. Northern Liberties in Philadelphia.\\xa0\\nhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Northern_Liberties,_Philadelphia\\n\\u201cGone are the days where you go to a bar and there\\u2019s just the sound of conversation.\\u201d\\nWhat we were drinking: Thom had Coors Light, and plotting on French wine. Chunjay drinking PBR and bourbon, the Philadelphia \\u201cCity Wide Special.\\u201d\\xa0\\nhttps://billypenn.com/2016/01/20/the-philly-citywide-special-index-whose-combo-packs-the-most-punch/\\nSharing a memory of a Russian New Year mishap.\\nThom\\u2019s faith past. Roman Catholicism, agnosticism-atheism, Orthodoxy. Walking out on Ash Wednesday.\\n\\u201cMy father tried to break down my door, because he wanted me to stop reading.\\u201d\\nDiscovering his sexuality, discovering gay bars.\\nOn 1969/1970: \\u201cTo announce that you were gay to your family then, was really paramount to saying you had a mental illness. Nobody talked about it.\\u201d\\xa0\\nWorking in the hospital.\\xa0\\nFalling in love with all the wrong people. One night stands. Collecting experiences. On marijuana and drugs.\\nThe Gay Liberation Movement. The Black Panthers.\\nHomosexuality in black and Latino communities. His first partner was black.\\nOn pacifism. Bringing his partner home to his family.\\nOn wrestling with homosexuality and faith.\\n\\u201cThe whole concept of a gay emotional life, a gay person, didn\\u2019t exist then.\\u201d\\n\\u201cWere we to be in an automobile accident, and were a priest to come to our bedside, we would confess our \\u2018gay sins,\\u2019 as it were.\\u201d\\n\\u201cWe are all slaves to our baptism. I can\\u2019t entirely liberate myself.\\u201d\\n\\u201cCertainly promiscuity, wild \\u2018Don Juan\\u2019 promiscuity, whether you\\u2019re gay or straight, it may feel wonderful, you get a diverse hors dvours sense of tasting of the lights when the moon is full\\u2026. But falling in love changes the speedometer.\\u201d\\n\\u201cI think that promiscuity whets your appetite for more promiscuity. Once you\\u2019ve opened those doors, really really wide, it\\u2019s really hard to go back and settle for one person.\\u201d\\nSt. Mary of Egypt and promiscuity.\\nVisiting an older gay man in the hospital who was near death.\\nChunjay introduces "Bad Haircuts" and misremembers the age of a girl mentioned in the song.\\n\\xa0\\n\\u201cBad Haircuts\\u201d Demo by Royal Ruckus from Seventeen Candles, free at http://noisetrade.com/royalruckus\\n\\xa0\\nChunjay talks about Samson Society.\\xa0\\nStraight men with same-sex attraction. Does bisexuality exist? \\u201cSituational homosexuality.\\u201d A band-aid.\\n\\u201cSome straight men, let\\u2019s face it, are so tired of doing what society expects, worshiping and pleasing the woman.\\u201d\\n\\u201cWhen you go to situations where there\\u2019s no emotional connection, that feeling of let down will easily turn into disgust, because there\\u2019s no real human connection. You\\u2019ve both used each other as a way to get off. That\\u2019s when our higher selves, our spiritual nature, reminds us that we\\u2019re not total machines, we\\u2019re not sexual robots.\\u201d\\nHow Thom found his way back to faith in Christ. Considered being a monk or a priest. An experience at a Benedictine monastery. His work as a writer, exploring reincarnation and New Age thinking.\\nThe death of a friend.\\nOn Western Rite Orthodoxy.\\n\\xa0\\n\\u201cThe Lone Gunmen\\u201d by Royal Ruckus from The Summer of the Cicadas LP.\\n\\xa0\\nOn being a newspaper writer. Being the first openly gay writer in the mainstream press? Death threats.\\xa0\\nShould gay men grow beards?\\nOn transgender issues.\\nOn writing gay fiction.\\nChunjay\\u2019s experience in 2002 with a gay bookstore. The shifting culture.\\n50 Shades.\\nMy Father the Devil. Important people in Philadelphia.\\nBiography of writer Dominic Dunn.\\nFind Thom Nickels at Philadelphia Magazine online, HuffPost, Icon Magazine, and buy his books at Barnes and Noble or Amazon.\\nOn dancing to rap music. Disco dancing is great.\\n\\xa0\\n"Rhymer\'s Block" by Royal Ruckus from The Summer of the Cicadas double LP. Video available at http://summerofthecicadas.com/videos\\n\\xa0\\nMentions: St. Michael the Archangel Russian Orthodox Church, James Joyce\\u2019s "A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man,\\u201d St. Louis Cathedral in New Orleans, Elizabeth Taylor\\u2019s film As'