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“Sometimes some people do what it really is, and there's nothing in the world we can do about what's past. What we do get to choose is two things. We get to choose how we feel about it, and we get to choose what we do about it.” - Kellan Fluckiger 

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What you are about to learn

Good days and bad days are happening to all of us. Some of us may have a good day today, and then lousy day tomorrow or vice versa. We don’t know when this will occur to us. So you might wake up one day having either of these. Now, regardless of whether or not you had a dumb game like I did the eight ball game or most of my days, I've racked from the start, or whether you have, you don't have that problem, and you just move through the day, and then something happens. 

So what if you do the idea that there's no real such thing as bad days? What if there are days that unexpected things happen? And what if your choice is,  I'm free to plan the day, which I should do because after all, I have goals, I have objectives, I have things I want to do places I want to go, maybe I want to create products, perhaps I want to make money, maybe I want to change jobs, maybe I want to do whatever. So we make plans because we do that. And then unexpected things happen. And plans never rarely go exactly as outlined. And instead of creating a bad day out of it, use my favorite question, which is, given what is what do I wish to create? So situations happen, but how are we facing it?  I choose not to be angry or frustrated or cynical. Instead, I'm going to be curious. And I'm going to be interested, and I'm going to simply accept what is and doesn't mean I have to like it. But it does mean that I'm not going to tie up my emotion, anger, and negativity in my reaction to that because then I'm giving away my power. 

Choose how you feel about it. Then next think what are you going to do? But that depends on the situation and what happened. The thing that happened may require some follow up. It may require you to deviate From your plans, and it may need many things. My suggestion in both of these is that you own and be intentional about it. So you intentionally decide how you're going to feel or react to a thing. And then you deliberately and purposefully determine what you're going to do. 

Enjoying the good days and learning to love the bad days. Enjoying the good days is something we don't do enough of, in my experience, and here's an effortless way to do that. Not all people do this because when we have bad days, we focus on anger. We are angry at something. We are mad at a person, or we are mad at the situation. But, have we tried to learn from these bad scenarios? And then enjoy it? Why don’t we instead learn from these mistakes? Say, “Oh, okay, this thing happened, I will not do this next time. And I will move on.” The third thing we said joy is that if you stop on purpose, and feel gratitude, several times a day, your whole perspective changes. 

You can do that. If you do that, and that's a choice you can make. If you decide to do that, then you will love the bad days. Because the bad by definition again to put that in quotes, means unexpected. Instead of being wrong, all they'll do is move from bad to surprising things I wasn't expecting happened.  

Key Takeaways 

“Now think about that. You get to choose how you feel about, and what you do with the circumstance. I know from my own experience. When I want to feel bad, angry, frustrated, cynical, resentful, or one of those things about what's going on, my creativity is reduced. My love is diminished. That usually means I don't create good solutions. That often means that I've got to fix stuff later.”

“What do you do with bad days, you carefully and intentionally choose how you feel about that bad day? And what you're going to do about it? So step one, stop being angry at it. Don't fight with reality. I'll promise you'll lose every single time. Because what it is, so start from where you are, and drop all the drama, drop the drama, drop the blame, drop the anger, drop the frustration. You're allowed to be surprised.”

“Loving the bad days again is another choice. It is a choice to believe. I'll say this slowly because it might be difficult To do, but it's a choice to think that things are working in your favor. And therefore, you're always looking for the silver lining is one cliche way to say it. That's, that's a choice we get to make. You can make a choice to always, and always, and always as a separate word always and always means every time always and always be looking for the good.”

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