126: Problem Solving with Dr. Ross Greene
Let's talk problem solving!\xa0 Many of us have tried it, but it's so common to get stuck...and to think that the method doesn't work, and then return in exasperation to the methods we'd been using all along.\xa0 These often involve coercion, or forcing the child to do something they don't want to do - but what's the alternative?\n\n\n\nIn this episode we talk with Dr. Ross Greene, who developed the Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (formerly Collaborative Problem Solving) approach in his books\xa0The Explosive Child\xa0and\xa0Raising Human Beings.\xa0 I really enjoyed digging into the research for this episode (why\xa0do\xa0all the papers describing CPS compare its effectiveness to behaviorist-based approaches?) but I ended up really taking one for the team: we didn't have time for all of my questions on the research because I wanted to make sure to address the challenges with problem solving that parents in the free\xa0Your Parenting Mojo Facebook group\xa0described when I asked them about this topic.\n \n\n\n\nThese challenges included:\n
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- How to problem solve with very young children \n \t
- What to do when the same issue recurs over and over and the solutions we decide on together don't seem to help \n \t
- How to navigate a child not wanting to leave the park when it's time to go \n \t
- How to approach a child who doesn't seem to be able to or refuses to communicate their feelings \n
\n\nFor more information on Dr. Greene's work, check out his books Raising Human Beings\xa0and\xa0The Explosive Child.\n\n\n \n\n\n\nSetting Loving (& Effective!) Limits Workshop\nDo you have a child aged 1 - 10? Are they resisting, ignoring you, and talking back at every request you make? Do you often feel frustrated, annoyed, and even angry with them? Are you desperate for their cooperation - but don't know how to get it? If your children are constantly testing limits, the Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop is for you.\n\n\nGo from constant struggles and nagging to a new sense of calm & collaboration. I will teach you how to set limits, but we'll also go waaaay beyond that to learn how to set fewer limits than you ever thought possible. Sign up now to join