119: Aligning Your Parenting With Your Values
Ever have a vague sense that your interactions with your child aren't quite aligned with your values...but aren't quite sure what to do about it?\n\n \n\nHave you been to a protest and shouted "Black Lives Matter!\xa0 Fight the Power!"...and then gone home and forced your child to brush their teeth?\n\n \n\nHave you chastised Grandma for 'stealing' kisses from your child because it disrespects their body autonomy...and then pinned them down for a haircut?\n\n \n\nYou're not alone.\xa0 We're in this weird place where we know we want to do things differently than the way we were raised.\xa0 But cultural norms are still telling us: we need to be in charge.\xa0 (Because if we aren't in charge,\xa0who is?)\n\n \n\nA conversation with the hosts of Upbringing\n\nMy guests today, Hannah and Kelty of the\xa0Upbringing\xa0podcast, see this dissonance more clearly than almost anyone I've met.\xa0 In their podcast they explore how we live one way as people (who believe in freedom!\xa0 respect!\xa0 consent!\xa0 empathy!) and another way as parents (timeouts, shame, control, consequences), and how we're unwittingly undermining the very skills and values we hope to promote.\n\n \n\nBut blaming and shaming helps nobody (not us...and certainly not our children).\xa0 By instead approaching the topic with compassion and optimism, we can get out of an us vs. them relationship with our children, and take back our parenting practices from our cultural conditioning, and parent\xa0in relationship with\xa0our children in a way that's deeply aligned with our values.\n\n \n\nHannah and Kelty describe their\xa0RESIST approach\xa0(Respect, Empathy, Sync up, Innovate, Summarize, Trust) and also have a new guide to\xa0navigating sibling conflict\xa0(use discount code MOJO at checkout for 15% off!) on their beautiful website.\xa0 If our conversation strikes a chord, I'd definitely encourage you to check out their podcast and weekly Q&As on\xa0Instagram.\n\n \nSetting Loving (& Effective!) Limits Workshop\nDo you have a child aged 1 - 10? Are they resisting, ignoring you, and talking back at every request you make? Do you often feel frustrated, annoyed, and even angry with them? Are you desperate for their cooperation - but don't know how to get it? If your children are constantly testing limits, the Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop is for you.\n\n\nGo from constant struggles and nagging to a new sense of calm & collaboration. I will teach you how to set limits, but we'll also go waaaay beyond that to learn how to set fewer limits than you ever thought possible. Sign up now to join the waitlist for the FREE workshop that will start on April 24, 2024. Click the banner to learn more:\n\n\n\n \n\n[accordion]\n\n[accordion-item title="Click here to read the full transcript"]\n\nJen\xa0 00:03\n\nHi, I'm Jen and I host the Your Parenting Mojo Podcast. We all want our children to lead fulfilling lives. But it can be so hard to keep up with the latest scientific research on child development and figure out whether and how to incorporate it into our own approach to...