Your Iconic Image : The One Thing Holding You Back
Stephen Scoggins
The Journey Principles Institute (7 Companies in all)
Stephen Scoggins is an award-winning, successful, multi-million-dollar serial entrepreneur, best-selling author, and creator of Transform U, a proprietary Life Mastery System dedicated to guiding others toward lasting breakthroughs in any area of life. Stephen has helped Fortune 500 leaders, professional athletes, entertainers, hardworking individuals, and everyone in between to exceed their wildest expectations in their life, business, and career.
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Part of my story is\u2026being homeless and overcoming a lot of childhood adversity\u2026.and I had an interesting mentor that poured into me at about the age of 13/14.
He said \u2018What\u2019s the difference between a rich man and a poor man?\u2019\xa0 And I was like (at 16) \u2018Money, of course.\u2019 He said \u2018Absolutely not.\xa0 It\u2019s the way they think.\u2019\xa0 He followed up with \u2018Do you want to learn to think like me?\xa0 Or do you want to continue thinking like your father?\u2019
My father was a hard working individual..he was not good with money..he wasn\u2019t necessarily good with relationships.\xa0 Steve was incredibly wealthy..he employed a few hundred team members across states\u2026and one of the things he helped me become aware of was the way in which I was thinking about myself\u2026opportunities\u2026my future\u2026
As you go through life\u2026you begin having experiences\u2026that get you starting to believe you are \u2018less than\u2019 because someone in front of you is \u2018more than.\u2019
The number one thing that holds most people back\u2026is the way they think.\xa0 If you take that a level deeper, what I\u2019m really saying is their ultimate level of self awareness.\xa0 How aware are you of your strengths, your struggles and your blind spots?
In almost every case they all but ignore their blind spots.
If the secret is in how I think, how do I better understand how I can think and then how can I reprogram myself?
What has to change in me?\xa0 That\u2019s the simple question most people forget to ask themselves.\xa0
We have a tool that we use to identify things that are kind of hidden under the surface\u2026.there\u2019s a number of tools you can use to at least take the first step in better understanding yourself.\xa0 the tricky part is, when you\u2019re reading through the results\u2026it\u2019s maybe better to walk over to your spouse or your friend and say \u2018what do you think about this sentence?\u2019
There\u2019s trust in wise council with people that you admire and trust. \xa0
I would not go out and try and get a third party opinion from someone who\u2019s consistently trying to take life from you.
In my journey, the person that I thought I was, was the person I was allowing myself to be. \xa0
If I believe that I\u2019ll always be a construction guy and that I\u2019ll never be an author and I\u2019ll never be a speaker, and as a result I should never try, then nothing\u2019s gonna change.\xa0
If someone who believed in me\u2026said I see you and you\u2019re dynamic\u2026passionate, bold\u2026you might have a skill set at speaking.\xa0 Now I\u2019ve got a decision in that moment\u2026to say \u2018what if?\u2019
I believe that it\u2019s 80% change and 20% foundation.
I\u2019m a high DI\u2026in that high drive, that immaturity side\u2026I was pretty aggressive\u2026had I left that unchecked\u2026that limitation determines the level of motivation and also the level of maturation that you actually have. \xa0
The awareness starts \u2018this is the limitation\u2019, \u2018this is what has to change\u2019, this is what I\u2019ve identified\u2019 and then it comes down to putting in the work.
I believe you can change about 80% of your DNA.\xa0 If nothing else, taking it from immaturity to maturity.\xa0 The other 20% is\u2026the way God made you.
You have to go on a self awareness journey\u2026without condemning yourself
When I first dropped out of high school, no one asked me why I was dropping out\u2026.they proceeded to condemn me\u2026they didn\u2019t know if I didn\u2019t do that, we weren\u2019t gonna eat or have shelter.
\u2026I got cocky and arrogant and boastful\u2026and as a result, I proceeded to lose everything.\xa0 Ultimately leading to me being homeless\u2026.I was chasing the affirmation of others in general.
In order to beat imposter phenomenon \u2026you have to acknowledge it exists\u2026and then you have to ask yourself why? Why do I feel inadequate at times? For a lot of us, it\u2019s because we are trying to measure up to someone else\u2019s expectations.\xa0 And as a result, as you being to remove those expectations of others and just see yourself as a work in progress, then you\u2019re able to give yourself credit for the little bit of confident wins you get along the way.
\u2026there\u2019s one major difference in those two Stephens.\xa0 It\u2019s the way in which they perceive the world. \xa0
All of those things are a level of awareness that may be bridging the gap between the person you are now and the person you ultimately want to be.\xa0 In order to become that person, you have to lay out a strategical plan to become that person.
If you can focus on the steps and not the expectations, then a lot of times what will happen is, you\u2019ll build self confidence along the way and you\u2019ll realize\u2026this is simply a journey.\xa0 Be at peace with the journey.
Phase one for me was all about practicalities and necessities\u2026.how do I make sure I get to eat this week?\xa0 How do I make sure I don\u2019t have to sleep outside?
It was about 5-7 years before I even gave myself the permission to dream.\xa0 We have forgotten to give ourselves permission to dream.
Phase two is now I have some hope, some dreams and aspirations.
And then phase three became Oh, I\u2019ve got something here, maybe I can scale it.
You test it, then you scale it.
Now that I know how important it is, the one message I would give to everybody is\u2026give yourself permission to dream.
It\u2019s a phase journey\u2026Phase one, gain perspective.\xa0 Phase two, remove roadblocks.\xa0 Phase three, organize a plan.\xa0 Phase four, you work your plan.\xa0 When you put all that together, it\u2019s GROW.\xa0
We try to put a cookie cutter framework around the process and what that does is eliminate the ability to meet people where they are and understand how they got there.
There\u2019s 7 levels of mastery\u2026in order to achieve mastery, at anything, that is a process. So the blind spots and struggles you have today can be worked on to the point of almost inexistence\u2026but you\u2019ll uncover new ones. \xa0
Stuck is not making progress.\xa0 Unstoppable is nothing more than consistently making progress.\xa0 It\u2019s persevering through that stuff.
Any specific struggle you have is going to show up in negative behavior attributes you exhibit.\xa0 And that\u2019s the place to start.
The first major roadblock I had specifically was pride\u2026.pride went from pride all the way to insecurity. Insecurity driven by fear. \xa0
One of the tricks I\u2019ve used in the past is to say \u2018Why?\u2019 five times.\xa0
You identify the pattern, you say I need a principle to override the roadblock.
Principles govern promises.\xa0
At the end of the day, your level of achieving your aspirations\u2026comes down to whether or not your willing to put in the work to get them. \xa0
Ed Mylett said \u2018I\u2019ve gotta keep the promises I make to myself.\u2019\xa0
People let the fear of the unknown shape the potential of their future rather than defining what they want..and simply beginning to answer the questions \u2018what baby steps can I take today?\u2019
Transform U is an amazing 3 day experience.\xa0 We don\u2019t do pitch fests.\xa0 We do application.\xa0 We teach you, we train you and then we basically show you how to apply it consistently\u2026.it\u2019s not a one-size-fits-all\u2026we shape it based on (your) need\u2026.you wind up with an actual one on one transformation.
Be willing to do today what others won\u2019t so you will have tomorrow what others don\u2019t.
Speaking even in Europe in the Scotland area
A cellphone and a microphone.\xa0 I want to spend the rest of my life giving back to the person I used to be.
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