Your Iconic Image : Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
Dr. Yishai is a Psychologist, Business Consultant, and Executive Coach who helps leaders of multi-million dollar companies handle the human side of business to react powerfully, increase performance, and create win-win solutions.
The first time imposter syndrome was described, it was actually called imposter phenomena which I like better\u2026because rather than it being a \u2018disease\u2019 you have that\u2019s now stuck to you, it\u2019s something that we experience as a phenomena.
They found that especially among really high achievers\u2026certain people would really struggle to internalize and really accept their own success and view themselves as being able to be successful.
They\u2019d be looking at themselves kind of backwards through a telescope\u2026and you know if you\u2019ve ever done that, whatever you look at looks really small\u2026and that\u2019s kind of how people can view themselves.
Whether its we\u2019re starting something new or in something, what we keep looking at is something that is 2 or 3 dreams or goals or levels higher than where we\u2019re currently at, then it\u2019s easy to kind of turn that telescope and view myself as who am I?
There are a lot of emotions that come with that and I think we tend to make meaning of a lot of those emotions.
I\u2019m not able to do the thing I dream or want or desire\u2026.I\u2019m not already there.
Fake it til you make it\u2026that thought really drives the narrative or the story that I\u2019m an imposter.
Mindset by Carol Dweck
Fixed vs growth mindset
A fixed mindset views people as having a capability or they don\u2019t have it\u2026there isn\u2019t really space to grow.\xa0The concept of fake it til you make it puts you in that view of either you\u2019ve got it or you don\u2019t\xa0and you just keep faking it and faking it and one day you\u2019ll magically have it.
That doesn\u2019t compute for me\u2026.because if I don\u2019t believe people can change over time, what would I be doing all day?
If we couldn\u2019t change over time, we would all either be born walking and talking or we\u2019d never be able to walk and talk.
The growth mindset is the view that we are all constantly in growth.\xa0Which means if today I\u2019m not able to do something, does that mean I will never be able to do it? No.\xa0I can grow my way into things.\xa0It takes the view that effort and time and energy are more important and that will help you get there.
Imposter syndrome is a lot more common among the students than among the professionals.
For professionals it will show up in moments, not neccesarily all the time.\xa0If it\u2019s showing up all the time, that\u2019s something that\u2019s worth paying closer attention to.
Slow down and take a reality check\u2026.are you there yet?\xa0Maybe not.\xa0Do you have to be?\xa0Maybe not.
Learn your way into it.
Imagine those thoughts or feelings are trying to help you\u2026what do they want for you? What is the end result they would hope for you?\xa0\u2026.perhaps they want you to get better.
Okay brain\u2026.if you really want me to be competent\u2026help me get there.
Once or twice a day\u2026Ask yourself what you\u2019ve accomplished.
There is a use case for comparison.
There is a difference between upward and downward comparison.
It\u2019s like watching the Olympics and comparing yourself to the gold medal winner in in every different sport and then looking at yourself.\xa0How are we going to look at ourselves?\xa0If any one of those gold medal winners did the same thing, they\u2019d feel terrible.\xa0They\u2019d say\u2026look at what all of these other people are capable of and all I did was this one thing.
The comparison wants me to reach for something higher\u2026.look at that person and see what they did and take something away\u2026that if I learn from these people\u2026then I can choose to do those things.\xa0
We don\u2019t do these things automatically.
Triple A Treatment:
- Awareness\xa0
- Analysis
- Action
When you\u2019re feeling stuck in the imposter syndrome, at least that\u2019s a place to start and it\u2019s also perhaps helpful to direct you to move forward.
Sometimes imposter syndrome can show up with depression or anxiety.\xa0If you are experiencing some of that, it\u2019s very important to consider if not explore the idea of seeing a therapist.\xa0
And while I may be a psychologist, I\u2019m not your psychologist, so do your own research and speak with a professional.
You don\u2019t need to rush. Whatever it is that\u2019s your goal, it\u2019s a journey with obstacles and growth along the way.
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