211. Feeling Broken In The Bedroom? What You Need To Know About Your Sexual Health
Feeling Broken In The Bedroom? What You Need To Know About Your Sexual Health - With Dr. Kelly\nCasperson\n\nThis is an interview I did with Lesley\nMcShane for her podcast \u201cRedesigning Midlife\u201d and it was just such a good\ninterview I asked her if I could share it again.\xa0 \n\n1.\nBasics:\xa0 a. Menopause means it\u2019s been one year and one day since your last\nperiod. b. The average age of menopause is around 51. and c. for ten years\nprior to menopause, women go through peri-menopause, where hormones are doing a\nreverse puberty.\n\n2.\xa0\nA lot of women stop or have pain during penetrative intercourse during this\ntime due to a decrease in natural lubricant and collagen, but this can be\neasily treated.\n\n3.\nEven if you don't have menopause symptoms, if you are over the age of\napproximately 51, you have gone through it.\n\n4.\nThe most sexually satisfied people aren\u2019t young people, it is people in their\n50s, 60s, 70s.\n\n5.\nGreat sex is not a passive thing. It\u2019s an active process, just like someone\nthat is physically fit. It has to be prioritized.\n\n6.\nUse of lube increases your success of orgasm by 70-80%. Silicone based lube is\nbest because you don\u2019t absorb it like you do the water based.\n\n7.\nThere is no \u201chow long\u201d should I use Vaginal Estrogen cream. The use of it is\nlike using sunscreen or wearing a seat belt.\n\n8.\nYou don\u2019t need a \u201csex drive\u201d. We do things because they are awesome.\xa0 If\nyou aren\u2019t having awesome sex, don\u2019t wonder why you don\u2019t desire it.\n\n9.\nWe feel entitled to a spontaneous sex drive that has been sold to us by media.\nAnd when we don\u2019t achieve that, we end up feeling broken.\n\n10.\nPutting something in the vagina only leads to female orgasm 30% of the time so\nspecial focus need to be paid to the female body. Your largest sex organ is\nyour brain.\n\n11.\nDon\u2019t sit passively by waiting for spontaneous desire to happen. Get dressed up\nand go to the party even if you don\u2019t think you want to. Chances are you\u2019ll\nhave a good time once you get there.\n\n12.\nControl of stress and cortisol levels in our bodies will help us desire more\nintimacy.\n\n13.\nIf there is a desire mis-match in your relationship, normalize it by talking\nabout it.\n\n14.\nCommunication with our partner about menopausal symptoms and what we are going\nthrough is important to our relationship.\n\n15.\nGet educated on hormone replacement therapy as an option. When women start\nthinking about how they want to live as they get older and get educated, then\nthey see how beneficial HRT could be for them.\n\n16.\nWomen between the age of 50-60 that are on hormone therapy live 3-4 years\nlonger than women in the same age group not on hormone therapy.\n\n17.\nFor our young adult children that are starting their own sexual lives, the\nbiggest thing they need to know from the start is about consent.\n\n18.\nThey need to be aware of is orgasmic equality.\n\n19.We have to educate our girls that pleasure is for everybody.\n\n\xa0Lesley McShane's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redesigning-midlife-workout-motivation-over-50-weight/id1549596974\n\nDid you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK\n\n\xa0\n\nJoin my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are\ncreated and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and\nepisodes. \n\nwww.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership\n\n\n--- \n\nSend in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices