169. His Porn Her Pain - Sex Therapist Marty Klein, PhD
Dr. Marty Klein has been a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist for over 35 years. He has focused his entire career toward a single set of goals: telling the truth about sexuality, helping people feel sexually adequate & powerful, and supporting the healthy sexual & intimate expression and exploration of women & men. He practices in Palo Alto.\n\nHe has written 7 books, translated into 11 languages and has given over 1,000 lectures.\n\nWhy are people so against porn? Or why not be against porn?\n\nThe Ice Cream/Broccoli hypothesis\n\n\u2018When people have low desire for lousy sex, that is not surprising\u201d \u2013 Dr. Klein\n\nShould we worry about porn dehumanizing women?\n\nWhat is the number one fantasy by women?\n\nShould you actually live our your sexual fantasies?\n\n\u201cSexual fantasies do not have meaning\u201d \u2013 Dr. Marty Klein\n\nPorn addiction \u2013 define?\n\nWhat about porn users who aren\u2019t functionally sexually at home?\n\nIs porn infidelity? What about sexting someone else? Only Fans?\n\nTalk about the power struggles couples get in and think it is about porn\n\n\u201cThe ultimate issue in many couples in conflict about pornography is the decline or disappearance of their once enjoyable sex life. While it is common to say that the porn user is selfish and rejecting of their partners, a lot of porn use is actually a desperate attempt to stay in a sexually unfulfilling couple.\u201d\n\nWhat to do if no longer attracted to your spouse? How is this not porn\u2019s fault if it makes you get off to perfect bodies?\n\n\u201cDesire in middle age does not feel like desire at 23 years old\u201d \u2013 Dr. Marty Klein\n\nWhat he wishes women knew about their male partner\u2019s porn.\n\nWhat would you like to tell the men?\n\nWhy are there not enough sex therapists and what should I do about it?\n\nhttps://www.martyklein.com/\n\nDr. Klein\u2019s book: His Porn, Her Pain https://amzn.to/3IYvIsF\n\nOur podcast sponsor is Bonafide\n\nBonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life.\n\nDiscount code for 20% off:NOTBROKEN\n\nSales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken\n\n\n--- \n\nSend in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices