When We Should (And Shouldn't) Rescue Our Kids
No matter what ages our kids are, when they need rescuing, they look to Mom. And whether we rescue them or not, we\u2019re left second-guessing whatever it is we just did.\xa0\nDid you bring that forgotten lunch to school? Nice helicoptering, loser!\xa0\nDid you leave your kid to figure out his own way home from baseball when it was getting dark? Really, how can you live with yourself?\xa0\nIn this episode, we talk about all the situations our kids have (and will) want rescuing from, and whether or not each requires our stepping in-- and how to know.\xa0\nWe discuss:\xa0why \u201cnatural consequences\u201d for your forgetful kid doesn\u2019t mean she\u2019ll remember her cleats next time; the structures and scaffolding you can put in place so kids can start rescuing themselves; and why \u201cmuscle confusion\u201d isn\u2019t just for the gym.\nBasically, we think that if your kids blow it once in a while, you should go ahead and bring them the right shoes. But don\u2019t forget to give your kids the gifts of solving their own problems once in a while.\xa0\xa0As parenting expert Dr. Robin Berman explains: "If you want to have happy kids, you have to teach them to tolerate being unhappy."\nHere are links to research and other writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode:\nDr. Robin Berman for Goop: The Misguided Desire of Wanting Our Kids to be Happy\nCarolyn Dalgiesh: The Sensory Child Gets Organized: Proven Systems for Rigid, Anxious, or Distracted Kids\nDr. Sarah Sarkis for Hey Sigmund: \u2018I Just Want Them to Be Okay\u2019 \u2013 Why Rescuing Our Kids Can Get in Their Way\nDr. Michael G. Thompson: When Should A Forgetful Nine-Year-Old Suffer Consequences? \nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices