When Our Partners Just Don't Get it
Why does it feel like I do all the work around here? Why can't my partner take on a little more? Why does a dad get to go on Good Morning America for DOING HIS DAUGHTER'S HAIR TWICE A WEEK??\nThere is evidence (statistical evidence, not just tears and bloodshed evidence) that having kids reduces marital harmony. And for a woman, the birth of a child often means taking on a second shift while her partner's routine may barely be interrupted. So how can we communicate with our partners to find labor divisions that work for everyone?\nIn this episode, Margaret and Amy discuss:\n\nWhat the science says about relationships post-children\n\nSigns that a partnership is operating unsustainably\n\nTips for how to start the conversation about dividing up parenting responsibilities\n\n\nEpisodes we mentioned: \nMaking It Work for the Long Haul (with Belinda Luscombe) episode\nParenting as a Team episode\nThe Infamous "Husband Crimes" episode\nResources mentioned in the episode: \nWhat Happens to a Marriage After Having Children?\nFighting Constantly After Baby? Read This.\n9 Signs That a Relationship Just Can't Be Saved\nAnd a bonus from the Husband Crimes archives: Kurt Vonnegut's attempt at gender equity.\nSpecial thanks to this month\u2019s sponsors: \nBeam\u2019s Dream Powder is their sleep-promoting healthy hot cocoa. 99% of people experience better sleep quality when taking Beam Dream! Get\xa0$20 off at\xa0beamorganics.com/fresh with the code FRESH.\nBetterhelp online therapy is affordable, confidential, and effective! Give it a try and see if online therapy can help lower your stress. Get 10% off your first month at\xa0betterhelp.com/fresh.\nDaily Harvest\xa0delivers delicious harvest bowls, flatbreads, smoothies, and more, all built on organic fruits and vegetables. Go to\xa0dailyharvest.com/laughing\xa0to get up to $40 off your first box!\nFirstleaf\xa0is a wine club that curates and ships wines that are personalized to your tastes! Get 6 bottles of wine for $29.95, plus free shipping, at\xa0tryfirstleaf.com/laughing.\nHome.Made.Podcast\xa0is a terrific new podcast offering stories about the meaning of home in America. Subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts!\nKiwiCo\xa0projects make science, technology, engineering, art, and math super fun. Get 30% off your first month plus FREE shipping on ANY crate line at kiwico.com with code\xa0MOTHERHOOD.\nLadder\xa0helps you find life insurance without the hassle! Answer a few questions online to apply for up to $3 million in term life insurance coverage. Go to\xa0ladderlife.com/laughing\xa0today to see if you\u2019re instantly approved.\nMathnasium\xa0is the place for online and in-person math education\u2013 whether your kids are a little behind, or need to be further challenged. Get your free consultation at\xa0mathnasium.com.\nNative products keep you feeling and smelling fresh. Get 20% off your first order by going to\xa0nativedeo.com/fresh\xa0or by using the promo code\xa0FRESH.\nParade\xa0underwear and loungewear are sustainable, size-inclusive, comfortable and fantastic! Go to\xa0yourparade.com/laughing\xa0and use the code LAUGHING for 20% off your first order.\nPeloton\xa0has a workout for every goal, day, and mood: everything from boxing and dance cardio to yoga and meditation. Visit\xa0onepeloton.com\xa0to learn more.\nProse\xa0now makes supplements personally tailored to address your specific cause of hair shedding. Get your free in-depth consultation and 15% off your custom hair supplements at\xa0prose.com/laughing.\nRenzo\u2019s Vitamins\xa0\u201cmelty vitamins\u201d taste great and give your kids the vitamins they need- without all the sugar of gummies! Go to\xa0renzosmagic.com\xa0and use the code FRESH to get $5 off.\nStoryWorth\xa0is an online service that helps you and your loved ones connect through sharing stories and memories and preserves them for years to come. Save $10 off your first purchase at storyworth.com/whatfreshhell.\nThrive Causemetics\xa0beauty and skin care products have clean, skin-loving ingredients\u2013 and are truly high-performance. Get 15% off your first order at\xa0thrivecausemetics.com/WHATFRESHHELL.\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices