Do We Need to Lower Our Standards?
When we explain to our partners and families that we need them to pitch in around the house, we sometimes hear back that the real problem is our too-high standards. That if we actually think "doing the laundry" means FOLDING the laundry, instead of leaving it in the dryer, that that is just too high a bar.\nEve Rodsky, author of FAIR PLAY, suggests that partners establish a "minimum standard of care" for household duties. But how does that get set? And is that really all it takes?\nIn this episode Amy and Margaret discuss:\n\nHow to use "community standards" to determine minimum standards of care\n\nThe tired old idea that women have impossible standards\n\nWhy it might be your system that's the problem, and not your partner\n\n\nHere are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:\n\nSheila Wray Gregoire for Bare Marriage: EMOTIONAL LABOR SERIES: HOW DO WE DECIDE WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE?\n\n\nListen to our Fresh Take with Eve Rodsky\n\nEve Rodsky's FAIR PLAY: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780525541943\n\n\nLeslie Goldman for The Cut: The Marriages Hanging On by a $19 Deck of Cards\n\n\nBuy Lyz Lenz's book THIS AMERICAN EX-WIFE: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780593241127\n\n\n\nWe love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website:\nhttps://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/\nmom friends, funny moms, parenting advice, parenting experts, parenting tips,\xa0mothers, families, parenting skills, parenting strategies, parenting styles, busy moms, self-help for moms, manage kid\u2019s behavior, teenager, tween, child development, family activities, family fun, parent child relationship, decluttering, kid-friendly, invisible workload, default parent, household equity, household equality, gender household equality, gender household equity\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices