DEEP DIVE: Rule Breaker Or Rule Follower: Which Are You?
This month's Deep Dive series is about flouting parenting rules and advice that don't work for us. Listen to a Spotify playlist of all the episodes in the series here. \nAre you a rule breaker or a rule follower? Are you married to your opposite? We're both rule followers, and when one builds a life with someone who sees the "NO DOGS IN THE LAKE" sign as an invitation to let the golden retriever go for a swim, one is caught between two bad choices: swallow the horrible anxiety that others might think *you* are the sort of person who has zero consideration for clearly posted signage, or be the stick in the mud who can never loosen up a little.\nIn this episode we discuss why both kinds of people exist, and bump up against each other\u2013 and\n\nwhy the "no rules pool" isn't as fun as it sounds\n\nhow rules limit possibilities, good and bad\n\nwhy humans tend to create more rules during and after times of struggle\n\nwhether kids are born to be rule followers\n\n\nIt's worth the struggle to find the balance for our families. In order for our kids to have the secret thrill of breaking a rule, there need to be a few rules there in the first place.\nHere are links to some of the writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode: \n\nMichele Gelfand: Rule Makers, Rule Breakers: How Tight and Loose Cultures Wire Our World\n\n\nDiane Spear: Play By the Relationship Rules! \n\n\nMichele Gelfand for The Guardian: Why countries with 'loose', rule-breaking cultures have been hit harder by Covid\n\n\nWikipedia: Rumspringa\n\n\n\nWhat Fresh Hell Podcast is going on tour across the Northeast US this fall! Join us for a live version of the podcast and bring all your mom friends. We can\u2019t wait to go back on the road!\xa0https://bit.ly/whatfreshhelltour\n\ufeff\nWe love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website:\nhttps://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/\nmom friends, funny moms, parenting advice, parenting experts, parenting tips,\xa0mothers, families, parenting skills, parenting strategies, parenting styles, busy moms, self-help for moms, manage kid\u2019s behavior, teenager, tween, child development, family activities, family fun, parent child relationship, decluttering, kid-friendly, invisible workload, default parent, bad advice, bad parenting advice, parenting rules, family rules \nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices