228: When Your Hair is Aflame with Winter

Published: Feb. 20, 2022, 12:26 p.m.

\nCan we look at ourselves and others around us as we all grow older with eyes of wonder... seeing and receiving the luminosity and depth that shines out from beneath the skin? Or will we get caught up in our culture's dominant meta-narratives - that to grow old is to be diminished, and that time is a 'resource' that we get less of as we age? What if, instead, life is a ripeness that we grow into, and growing into our elderhood is a deep gift we can bring to others?
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\nThis week's Turning Towards Life is a conversation about what might become possible as we grow into the wildness of our bones, and attune to the gifts of the ones who walk the path ahead of us. It's hosted as always by Lizzie Winn and Justin Wise of Thirdspace.

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This is Turning Towards Life, a weekly live 30 minute conversation hosted by Thirdspace in which Justin Wise and Lizzie Winn dive deep into big questions of human living. Find us on FaceBook to watch live and join in the lively conversation on this episode. You can find videos of every episode, and more about the project on the Turning Towards Life website, and you can also watch and listen on Instagram, YouTube, and as a podcast on Apple, Google and Spotify.
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\nHere's our source for this week:
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\nBeneath the Sweater and the Skin
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\nHow many years of beauty do I have left?
\nshe asks me.
\nHow many more do you want?
\nHere. Here is 34. Here is 50.
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\n\n\nWhen you are 80 years old
\nand your beauty rises in ways
\nyour cells cannot even imagine now
\nand your wild bones grow luminous and
\nripe, having carried the weight
\nof a passionate life.\xa0
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\n\n\nWhen your hair is aflame
\nwith winter
\nand you have decades of
\nlearning and leaving and loving
\nsewn into
\nthe corners of your eyes
\nand your children come home
\nto find their own history
\nin your face.
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\n\n\nWhen you know what it feels like to fail
\nferociously
\nand have gained the
\ncapacity
\nto rise and rise and rise again.
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\n\n\nWhen you can make your tea
\non a quiet and ridiculously lonely afternoon
\nand still have a song in your heart
\nQueen owl wings beating
\nbeneath the cotton of your sweater.
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\n\n\nBecause your beauty began there
\nbeneath the sweater and the skin,
\nremember?
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\n\n\nThis is when I will take you
\ninto my arms and coo
\nYOU BRAVE AND GLORIOUS THING
\nyou've come so far.
\nI see you.
\nYour beauty is breathtaking.
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\nJeannette Encinias
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www.jeannetteencinias.com
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\nPhoto by \xddlona Mar\xeda Rybka on Unsplash\n