73. Boundaries
\u201cNo is a complete sentence.\u201d
-Anne Lamont
The holidays are A LOT, 2020 is A LOT, family (year-round) is A LOT. The conversation around boundaries and self-love/care has been coming up again and again so I knew we have to bring it to the T&T mic.\xa0 I am pumped for today\u2019s conversation with my good friend and boundary PRO, Clare Sorbon. Clare is a former D1 athlete, corporate professional, one of 5 siblings, and all-around varsity human. This year has been a year of its own, but the holidays in general are very stressful and filled with pressure and expectation. I wanted to unpack why we commit so hard to these traditions if it is so much hard work and likely not that healthy for us? We don\u2019t need one more thing working against us in 2020, ha. Clare and I discuss family, tradition, and the evolving process of continued self-reflection/growth it takes to keep these things that mean so much to us in positive light and experience. We discuss the importance of space, grace, and self-protection. It\u2019s ok to take a holiday off or use your voice and say a relationship or situation is no longer severing you (family, friends, career etc). We agree that family is the most important thing, hence all the more reason to have the tough conversation and understanding that while things are changing and we are evolving, we all need to protect our own magic for the greater good and we need to step back when we need to step back. Clare and I cover questions you should ask yourself when deciding if relationship/situation is serving you or not, the importance of core values and knowing your true self, \xa0and working to universally understand that each person\u2019s experience is different- even when you\u2019re related. The holidays are a joyous time, let\u2019s work to keep it that way, even if it means evolving some of these traditions and rules that we cling so tightly to- change is a good thing!!
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Highlights:
Evolution, self-love, and boundaries. Knowing when to cut ties and protect yourself, your heart, and your magic. The holidays, tradition, expectation, and change. Space and grace and balancing it all. Family, friends, perspective, and the hard cut off. Questioning a better way. Hard choices to make a good long-term decision (for all).
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Clare Sobon:
Clare Sobon serves as the Development Officer at Denver Contemporary Art Museum. Before taking a dive into the art world, she competed as a student-athlete thrower at Belmont University. She hails from New Jersey, where she and her large family of 7 built roots as a culturally mixed family in a very diverse region of central jersey. As a fundraiser she has found\xa0that an individual\xa0relationship with healthy boundaries and measured\xa0expectations can be the exact combination to help better boost relationships\xa0and settle family ties.\xa0\xa0\xa0
@finna_bclare
@mca_denver
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