My guest is Jessica Lahey, an educator, writer, and speaker, and the author of one of my favorite parenting books, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. Jess shares her insights about how we can best prepare our kids for an independent, successful adulthood in the way we practice autonomy supportive parenting versus overparenting, what it means to let our kids \u201cfail\u201d to help them thrive, how we can help our kids learn how to \u201csit with frustration,\u201d and much more.\xa0\n\xa0Jessica Lahey is an educator, writer, and speaker. She is an English and writing teacher, correspondent for the Atlantic, commentator for Vermont Public Radio, and writes the \u201cParent-Teacher Conference\u201d column for the New York Times.\xa0 Jessica earned a B.A. in Comparative Literature from the University of Massachusetts and a J.D. with a concentration in juvenile and education law from the University of North Carolina School of Law. She lives in New Hampshire with her husband and two sons. \xa0\nThings you\u2019ll learn from this episode\n\nThe difference between overparenting and \u201cautonomy supportive parenting"\n\nHow many parents underestimate their kids and might be unknowingly fostering learned helplessness in them\n\nHow we can build scaffolding for our kids\xa0\n\nWhat Jessica wishes parents of atypical kids knew about teachers\n\nJessica\u2019s advice for how we can best advocate for our kids in school\n\nHow we can foster more of a growth mindset in our children, especially those who are perfectionist, as well as how to NOT foster \u201clearned helplessness\u201d\n\n\xa0Resources mentioned about the gift of failure\n\nJessica Lahey\u2019s website\n\n\nThe Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed by Jessica Lahey\n\n\nWhy Parents Need To Let Their Kids Fail (The Atlantic article)\n\n\nDr. Ross Greene Talks About Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (podcast episode)\n\n\nThe Opposite of Spoiled: Raising Kids Who Are Grounded, Generous and Smart About Money by Ron Lieber\n\n\nAm Writing (Jessica\u2019s podcast)\n\n\nThe Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children by \n\nSupport the showConnect with Tilt Parenting\n Visit Tilt Parenting\n Take the free 7-Day Challenge \n Read a chapter of Differently Wired \n Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram \n \nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices