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Episode summary:

Emanuel Hahn has never been great at asking for help. He didn\u2019t live with his parents after age 12, and consequently, he says he learned to only rely on himself. But now that he\u2019s launching his first book and juggling a freelance career, he knows he can\u2019t do it all on his own. He tried our Ask for Help at Work practice, which challenges you to make a direct request when you need a hand from someone.\xa0
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\nEmanuel had to pack 800 pre-ordered books into boxes for shipping. It\u2019s a laborious task, and he knew he couldn\u2019t handle it all on his own. It was a Sunday, and people probably already had plans. He took a beat, and then he sent the texts out anyway. Before long, he had eight people packing books.\xa0**
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\nVanessa Bohns of Cornell University has studied exactly what Emanuel experienced: When it comes to asking for help, we underestimate how likely others are to say \u201cyes\u201d to our request. But when we put ourselves in the shoes of a person being asked for help, it\u2019s hard to imagine saying \u201cno.\u201d

\u201cPeople do get this warm glow from helping,\u201d Bohns says. \u201cPeople enjoy being helpful.\u201d
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\nThis Happiness Practice might benefit you as much as the person you ask.

Try this week\u2019s practice, Ask for Help at Work at GGIA.berkeley.edu

Today\u2019s guests:

Emanuel Hahn is a freelance photographer and director in Los Angeles. He just released his first book, Koreatown Dreaming, which documents 40 small businesses in LA\u2019s Koreatown as they weather the pandemic and encroaching gentrification. He joins us today after trying a practice where he makes a commitment to ask for help whenever he needs it.

Follow Emanuel on Twitter and Instagram.

Vanessa Bohns is an associate professor of social psychology at Cornell University and the author of the book You Have More Influence Than You Think. She did an experiment to see why it\u2019s so hard for people to ask for help.

Follow Vanessa Bohns on Twitter.

More resources from The Greater Good Science Center:

How Love and Connection Exist in Micro-Moments

Is Stress Making You Withdraw from People?

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