Episode 10: You are allowed to leave
This episode is all about permission. It\u2019s about how women seem to evolve in middle-age and how we seem to be outgrowing our marriages at alarming rates, and how to know if that\u2019s ok or not.\nIn the last few weeks as I\u2019ve been speaking with clients there\u2019s a recurring theme that keeps coming up. I keep hearing women say that their husband is a really nice guy, he\u2019s a great dad, a great provider, they list their husband\u2019s great qualities and then berate themselves for their own misery and usually end up in a wail of \u201cwhy can\u2019t i just be happy?\u201d\nAnd often it's because they've changed over the course of time.\nYou are allowed to change. You are allowed to grow. And you are allowed to choose to leave your marriage.\nIf you\u2019ve done all the work you can, if you\u2019ve been to therapy, if you\u2019ve asked your husband to go to therapy with you, if you\u2019ve been bending yourself into a pretzel for the last ten years trying to take all the responsibility for all the things because you\u2019ve been taught in 12-step rooms, in personal development programs, in therapy that you are responsible for your happiness, and you can create any relationship you want, but it\u2019s still not fucking working, your marriage, at this point in time, may be unworkable. And that\u2019s ok.\nAnd the thing that can be hard for us to wrap our minds around is that no one has to be at fault. No one has to be wrong. When something isn\u2019t workable, it\u2019s often no one\u2019s fault.\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices