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b'The fear of abandonment is universal. The problem is \\u2013 we try to medicate that feeling with whatever gives us instant gratification (drugs, alcohol, food, television, sleeping, social media, shopping, etc.)\\xa0\\nWhatever that looks like, addiction can stem from an unhealed abandonment wound. And when you fail to take care of that wound, it can lead to self-sabotage. So how do we heal our abandonment issues?\\nOn today\\u2019s episode, Duane speaks with Susan Anderson, founder of Abandonment Recovery, a program that helps people with numerous issues such as heartbreak loss, self-sabotage, addiction, and compulsion. Susan shares her own story of how she got into this work of dealing with abandonment. Susan gives us an illustration of what abandonment looks like, how it impacts our life, and what we can do to overcome it.\\nSusan points out that overcoming abandonment is a doing process. Therefore, just knowing about it isn\'t necessarily going to help you overcome the wound that may be negatively impacting your life. There needs to be action.\\n\\nIn this episode, you will hear:\\n\\nWhy abandonment is universal\\n\\nThe correlation between abandonment and addiction\\n\\nLoneliness as a huge adult trigger\\n\\nEarly abandonment vs. normal level of abandonment\\n\\nSelf-sabotage and the outer child\\n\\nForms of self-sabotage\\n\\nThe power of visualization\\n\\n\\nKey Quotes:\\n[02:36] - "Abandonment translates to separation anxiety, which is something we all share as human beings. It\'s universal and we medicate that feeling.\\u201d\\n[04:16] - \\u201cWe all have a fear of abandonment, and when it\'s triggered by an adult experience, it can create a cascade of hormonal processes in the brain. No matter how strong we are, we can all experience a serious emotional crisis if the trigger is big enough in adulthood."\\n[05:37] - "Overcoming abandonment is a doing process, not just a feeling process. It\'s a recovery. It\'s an ongoing process."\\n[10:53] - "When we are going through an adult trigger, even if it\'s a mild trigger, the thing that we are most vulnerable to is becoming addicted to a substance or to an activity."\\n[19:01] - "If you\'ve had a lot of abandonment, you have a lot of self-sabotage... and you repeat the thing that\'s so familiar."\\n[29:16] "You don\'t have to make gigantic changes to have your dreams start to line. You need to make enough of a change just to get that door to swing. It\'s an amazing thing that small changes make huge differences."\\n[34:18] "Everyone\'s looking for a magic bullet that\'s why addictions are so popular... but they have to enter on a journey of developing a new relationship with themselves and it\'s something they have to really work out and take very seriously."\\nSubscribe and Review\\nHave you subscribed to our podcast? We\\u2019d love for you to subscribe if you haven\\u2019t yet.\\xa0\\nWe\\u2019d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select \\u201cRatings and Reviews\\u201d and \\u201cWrite a Review\\u201d then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.\\nIf you really enjoyed this episode, we\\u2019ve created a PDF that has all of the key information for you from the episode. Just go to the episode page at www.theaddictedmind.com to download it.\\nSupporting Resources:\\nNovusMindfulLife.com\\nAbandonment Recovery\\nhttps://www.abandonment.net/\\xa0\\nEpisode Credits\\nIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'