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b'On today\\u2019s episode of The Addicted Mind Podcast, Duane speaks with Sarah Michaud, clinical psychologist and author of Co-Crazy: One Psychologist\'s Recovery from Codependency and Addiction: A Memoir and Roadmap to Freedom.\\xa0\\nOne of the reasons Sarah published a book on codependency is that after working with patients and clients for the last 30 years, Sarah noticed that a lot of them were recovering addicts and alcoholics.\\nIn her book, Co-Crazy, Sarah shares her own story as well. In 2006, Sarah married a guy, who was 15 years sober, and thought he was the man of her dreams. Unfortunately, he ended up relapsing after getting surgery and getting into the opiates.\\nThe major underlying issue for a lot of recovering addicts is unresolved codependency. Codependent behavior comes out of fear and addiction comes out of fear or unresolved feelings. For an addicted person, there\\u2019s all that rationalizing, minimizing, and denial happening. It\\u2019s the same process for the codependent as well.\\nHow do you then recover from codependency and addiction? Today, Sarah discusses how focusing on yourself and understanding your own needs and wants first, is the way to find peace and freedom in your life \\u2013 not sacrificing yourself for someone else\'s addiction.\\nIn this episode, you will hear:\\n\\nCodependency and addiction\\n\\nHow codependency becomes progressive\\n\\nFocusing on yourself to get better\\n\\nThe consequences of codependency\\n\\nReconnection to the self\\n\\nConfronting the discomfort and being with it\\n\\nKey Quotes:\\n[02:47] - \\u201cCodependent behavior comes out of fear, and addiction comes out of fear or unresolved feelings."\\n[06:17] "Many people who are codependent don\'t have an addiction. They\'re just preoccupied with their partner\'s lives."\\n[10:36] "Until I realized that I had to focus on myself to get better, and start figuring out what I needed, I couldn\'t change the situation."\\n[11:37] "The biggest fear is the person dying\\u2026 the delusion is that you\'re controlling the other person\'s behavior."\\n[15:17] \\u201cThe consequence of codependent behavior is that the people around us start to believe they can\'t take care of themselves.\\u201d\\xa0\\n[32:47] "If you can confront the discomfort and be with the discomfort, there might be a spike of intense bodily sensations. But if you set the boundary that is for longer-term comfort, then you\'re not going to have to experience it.\\u201d\\n[36:45] \\u201cCheck in with yourself even if it\'s five minutes a day and say, \\u201cWhat do I want? What do I need? What works for me?\\u201d because recovery is all about getting more in touch with yourself.\\u201d\\nSubscribe and Review\\nHave you subscribed to our podcast? We\\u2019d love for you to subscribe if you haven\\u2019t yet.\\xa0\\nWe\\u2019d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select \\u201cRatings and Reviews\\u201d and \\u201cWrite a Review\\u201d then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.\\nIf you really enjoyed this episode, we\\u2019ve created a PDF that has all of the key information for you from the episode. Just go to the episode page at www.theaddictedmind.com\\xa0to download it.\\nSupporting Resources:\\nCo-Crazy: One Psychologist\'s Recovery from Codependency and Addiction: A Memoir and Roadmap to Freedom\\nwww.amazon.com/Co-Crazy-Psychologists-Recovery-Codependency-Addiction/dp/1736720430\\nEpisode Credits\\nIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.\\n\\n\\nSupport this podcast at \\u2014 https://redcircle.com/the-addicted-mind-podcast/donations\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'