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b'On today\\u2019s episode, Duane speaks with Etel Leit, who talks about her own story of living with addiction \\u2013 not her own addiction, but in her relationship \\u2013 and how addiction doesn\'t just impact the person struggling with addiction, but also everyone around that person.\\xa0\\nAddiction is not a one-person thing, but it\'s something that flows all over. It impacts the family, friends, bosses, and the people around them. Most often, too, addiction is looked at as a family disease.\\xa0\\nThere\\u2019s this idea of trying to change the addicted person and becoming obsessed with it, that they eventually lose their identity along the way and it brings about feelings of shame and embarrassment.\\xa0\\nTherefore, part of the healing is not only looking into what goes into an addicted person\\u2019s mind, but also acknowledging what\\u2019s also going on in the mind of the person living next to the addict so then both parties can go through the healing journey together.\\xa0\\xa0\\nIf you\\u2019re somebody living with a person struggling with addiction, tune in to learn some tools you can use to heal yourself in the process. Etel also shares her healing journey, going through it and coming out the other side of that, and now working to help others going through the same.\\xa0\\nEtel\\u2019s book, \\u201cUnAddicted to You: Loving Yourself Through the Darkness\\u201d is a great read that offers some tools a person living next to an addicted person can use so they can find their spark within them once again.\\nIn this episode, you will hear:\\n\\nHow relationship problems go all the way back since we were babies\\n\\nWhat goes on in the mind of a person living with an addicted person\\n\\nPutting a stop to people-pleasing\\n\\nCreating boundaries as a form of self-love\\n\\nPutting down the magnifying the glass and picking up the mirror\\n\\nThe 3 C\\u2019s of a person living with an addicted person\\n\\nThe first step is acknowledgement\\n\\nKey Quotes:\\n"Addiction is not a one-person thing. It\'s something that flows all over \\u2013 the family, friends, bosses."\\n\\u201cThe idea of going and trying to change the other person is something that is really embedded in people who are living next to the addict.\\u201d\\n\\u201cA person who lives either with an active addict or active alcoholic, they even don\'t know what their hobbies are. Their hobby is the person.\\u201d\\n\\u201cPeople-pleasing is lying\\u2013 not only do I lie to the other person, but deeply, I lie to myself.\\u201d\\n\\u201cMean what you say, say what you mean, but don\\u2019t say it mean.\\u201d\\n\\xa0\\n\\u201cWhen you see someone that isn\'t next to alcoholic or addict, they don\'t have the spark, they\'re in the dark.\\u201d\\n\\u201cPut down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror... stop judging others, look at yourself.\\u201d\\n\\nSubscribe and Review\\nHave you subscribed to our podcast? We\\u2019d love for you to subscribe if you haven\\u2019t yet.\\xa0\\nWe\\u2019d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select \\u201cRatings and Reviews\\u201d and \\u201cWrite a Review\\u201d then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.\\nIf you really enjoyed this episode, we\\u2019ve created a PDF that has all of the key information for you from the episode. Just go to the episode page at www.theaddictedmind.com\\xa0to download it.\\nSupporting Resources:\\nwww.etelleit.com (Promo code: THEADDICTMIND)\\nUnAddicted to You: Loving Yourself Through the Darkness\\nhttps://www.amazon.com/UnAddicted-You-Yourself-Through-Darkness/dp/0578871874\\xa0\\n\\nEpisode Credits\\nIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.\\n\\n\\nSupport this podcast at \\u2014 https://redcircle.com/the-addicted-mind-podcast/donations\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'