There Has to be More by Rachel Service: how to achieve your goals
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\nAbout the\xa0book
\nYou may have outgrown a relationship. Your job may no longer excite you. Maybe you look in the mirror and see someone you don\u2019t want to be anymore. You might be so fed up that you\u2019re ready to throw in the towel at work or in a friendship or relationship.
\nBehind the scenes, thousands of smart, capable, amazing people like you feel the exact same way.
\nIn There Has To Be More, Rachel shares the methods and tools she created to genuinely grow and build a life that reflects what makes her happy.
\nSource: amazon.com.au
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\nAbout the\xa0author
\nRachel Service is the CEO of Happiness Concierge and the author of There Has To Be More: The Essential Guide to Personal Growth.
\nAfter experiencing an aha moment at a Beyonce concert (true story!), with $300 in her bank account, entrepreneur Rachel Service started Happiness Concierge\u2122, the company empowering thousands of people across the globe.
\nSince then, she has saved companies millions by empowering their people, partnered with ASX listed companies, retail banks, universities and government departments and shifted the dial on workplace culture.
\nRachel\u2019s award-winning approach to personal and professional growth has been featured in the BBC, Financial Review, Sydney Morning Herald and The Age. Her TED talk, \u2018How to Break Up With Your Public Identity\u2019, was internationally syndicated on the official TED website in 2020.
\nRachel\u2019s belief is when we create our own version of success, we take control of our life and work.
\nSource: https://www.rachelservice.com/rachel-service
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\nBig idea #1\u200a\u2014\u200aThe Growth\xa0Cycle
\nThe main structure of the book is around the growth cycle, Rachel\u2019s on model on how to take your goals and reach them.
\nThe five stages of the growth model are\u2026
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- Own it; doing an audit and really checking yourself on what\u2019s really happening, including how you\u2019re getting in your own way at the moment. \n
- Find your way back; reflecting on what\u2019s changed and what those trigger points were. \n
- What do you want; defining what you want and really being clear on what\u2019s important and what\u2019s not important. \n
- Game plan; the people, the actions, the roadblocks, and then prioritizing the goals. \n
- Take the first step; acknowledging the small wins, finding little ways to fail, and setting a bit of a commitment to yourself. \n
There\u2019s lots of reflection questions and frameworks throughout the model and book. One I particularly liked was looking at behaviour and communication patterns where we fall into the trap of our own outdated beliefs and how we reinforce them, and therefore ending up going in a bit of a cycle. Which is not particularly useful for actually achieving our goals and breaking some of those patterns and habits and ways of thinking.
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\nBig idea #2\u200a\u2014\u200aChoose your\xa0people
\nThere\u2019s a really strong theme in the book about the people around you and that you surround yourself with and choosing them wisely. Rachel shares that some people might freak out when you make a big change, or when you decide that you\u2019re going to commit to yourself and make and achieve a goal.
\nYou might even be concerned trolled, which was a term that I had never heard before, but I really enjoyed as a description. It is when you get a back handed comment or false curiosity from someone when you share your goal or actions with them.
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\nConcern troll: how was your morning?\n
You: Great, I did a fitness class.\n
Concern troll: oh I would never do that of kind of jumping around.\n
You: well, you know, it\u2019s not for everyone.\xa0\n
Concern troll: don\u2019t you ever worry about getting injured?\n
That sort of backhanded comments or false curiosity/concern is something that you probably hear, and do, on a regular basis. And I had never thought of it as being a bad thing; just different preferences / opinions. So it was a useful reminder how in some cases, it might make people feel bad or feel like they shouldn\u2019t do the thing because they\u2019ve been concerned trolled.
\nThere\u2019s also a useful section in the book so that if you do find you need to edit some relationships, there\u2019s also advice in here around saying no, establishing boundaries, and potentially distancing yourself from certain individuals or certain groups or relationships that aren\u2019t serving you.
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\nBig idea #3\u200a\u2014\u200aReflect, reflect,\xa0reflect
\nThis is more of an overall theme of the book as there\u2019s a huge amount of questions, practical activities, sections you can fill in, and even an associated workbook that comes with the book.
\nQuite a few of the reflection questions involve looking backwards; thinking back to a time you felt excellent or you felt at your best and then asking yourself what\u2019s changed to get you here, where maybe things aren\u2019t working as well for you, or there\u2019s something a little bit missing.
\nThe hardest thing is often knowing what you do want. So the book asks you what you want to;
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- feel or be \n
- have\xa0 \n
- achieve \n
Which is quite a nice way of breaking it down for the little prompts that can help you define what success looks like. And then from there you can set up timelines, stepping stones, habits required, and the people you need around you to actually achieve those things.
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