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About the author

\u201cMy name is Michael. I can hop. Do you want to see me hop?\u201d
That\u2019s how Michael introduced himself to bemused strangers at the supermarket when he was three.

Michael Bungay Stanier is at the forefront of shaping how organizations around the world make being coach-like an essential leadership behavior and competency. His book The Coaching Habit is the best-selling coaching book of this century and in 2019, he was named the #1 thought leader in coaching, and was shortlisted for the coaching prize by Thinkers50, the \u201cOscars of management\u201d.

Michael is the Founder of Box of Crayons. Box of Crayons is a learning and
development company that helps organizations transform from advice-driven to curiosity-led.

Michael is a compelling keynote speaker who combines practicality, humour, and an unprecedented degree of engagement with the audience. He has performed around the world in front of crowds ranging from ten to ten thousand.

En route to today\u2014and these are essential parts of his origin story\u2014Michael
knocked himself unconscious as a labourer by hitting himself in the head with a shovel; mastered stagecraft (and stage fright) at law school by appearing in a skit called Synchronized Nude Male Modelling; and his first paid piece of writing was a Harlequin Romance-esque story involving a mis-delivered letter called \u2026 The Male Delivery.

Source:\xa0https://www.mbs.works/about

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About the book

The Advice Trap is the much anticipated companion book to the Wall Street Journal bestseller and smash hit, The Coaching Habit. It\u2019s all about how to #TameYourAdviceMonster. And that\u2019s no easy thing.

This book:

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• untangles the difference between Easy Change and Hard Change.
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• tackles the thorny issue of how to change your behaviour so you stay curious longer.
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• provides the tools to make you masterful at focus, and your conversations irresistible.
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• introduces a new way of thinking about leadership that rests on curiosity and invites in empathy, mindfulness and humility.
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• and so much more!
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Plus, it\u2019s all written in a clear, funny and practical manner.

Source: https://www.mbs.works/theadvicetrap

Links

Find out more and download the advice trap resources here:
https://www.mbs.works/theadvicetrap
Listen to Michael giving excellent advice on facilitation on the First Time Facilitator podcast here: https://www.firsttimefacilitator.com/michael-bungay-stanier/

BIG IDEA 1 (6:47) \u2013 The perils of advice.

The dysfunctional patterns that repeat themselves between individuals within teams are because of the advice trap. And these bad habits and behaviours and dysfunctional patterns will just keep happening as advice is perpetually carried forward.\xa0

Researchers suggest that advice givers are less likeable and are ineffective at developing others.\xa0 Advice is given by people who were not curious enough to find out what the real challenge is with the person they\u2019re giving the advice to.

Falling into the advice trap also limits change because people can\u2019t identify the real challenge themselves. It stops success being scalable because it sticks people into the status quo.\xa0

The trap is keeping on giving advice even though it doesn\u2019t work.\xa0

BIG IDEA 2 (9:24) \u2013 The types of advice monster.\xa0

There are personas of the advice monster \u2013 tell it, save it, and control it.\xa0

\u2018Tell it\u2019 loves the spotlight and believes it has all of the answers.\xa0

\u2018Save it\u2019 is the rescuer, who uses the excuse of being helpful to provide advice \u2013 with a \u2018faint smell of burning martyr\u2019.

The third persona is \u2018control it\u2019, it\u2019s always present and has delusions of grandeur and can\u2019t possibly empower others because then it will lose control.

All these personalities are really saying that \u2018you are better than the other person\u2019.\xa0 Which is quite a statement, but this should be confronting; every time you give advice, you are suggesting you are better than the other person.

BIG IDEA 3 (11:48) \u2013 Stay curious longer.\xa0

The answer is curiosity.

Michael talks about the key principles in the book; be lazy \u2013 don\u2019t feel like you have to carry everything and make all the decisions and come up with all the answers; be curious \u2013 keep asking questions at all opportunities, and be often \u2013 coaching is something that shouldn\u2019t happen only quarterly or annually but it should be your normal way of doing things.

Music By:\xa0Almanac Song by Seth Parson

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