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Traditional parenting methods don\u2019t often work for children with ADHD. Have you ever asked either of these questions:\xa0

Why don\u2019t consequences work with some children?\xa0

What can parents do instead of these traditional methods that don\u2019t work?\xa0

Kim Hopkins is an independently licensed clinical social worker who has specialized in working with behavioral challenged kids for more than 25 years. She has managed the clinical departments of two organizations serving youth and families in residential facilities, foster homes, therapeutic day schools, and homeless shelters.\xa0

She has been a Collaborative and Proactive Solutions, which is CPS for short, trainer since 2007, helping schools, residentials, hospitals, and parents to successfully implement the CPS model from Dr. Ross Greene. Kim is also the director of outreach and communication for Dr. Ross Greene\u2019s nonprofit, Lives in the Balance.\xa0

In this episode, Kim shares tips about how to parent children with ADHD using the Collaborative and Proactive Solutions Model developed by Dr. Ross Greene.\xa0

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Key Takeaways:

[4:09] Why do some kids struggle more than others?

[6:10] Why do consequences often NOT work, and what can parents use instead?

[9:24] The first step in teaching kids lacking skills

[12:55] What parents can do in the heat of the moment (An Explanation of Plan A, B, & C of the Collaborative and Proactive Solutions Model)

[16:43] Summary of Plans A, B, & C

[17:48] The 3 steps in Plan B

[19:13] How long this system takes for families to incorporate

[22:56] Resources to help families begin using the CPS Model

[24:46] How Kim got started using the CPS Model

[26:39] Kim\u2019s top tip for parents

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Memorable Moments:

\u201cKids who exhibit behavior in the face of problems and frustrations do so because they lack the skills not to. This is a skills deficit situation. A lot of traditional parenting techniques talk about it as being a motivation deficit situation. We don\u2019t believe that at all.\u201d

\u201dThey [consequences] don\u2019t get the job done because they\u2019re not doing anything to address skills.\u201d

\u201cYou can observe their feelings. You can observe their behavior. But it\u2019s their thought process that if you had a little glance into would really position you to better help them.\u201d

\u201cPouring on empathy\u2026can really help bring a kid back to baseline.\u201d

\u201cThe durable, problem-solving, skills-teaching piece happens only proactively.\u201d

\u201cNothing good happens in the heat of the moment. So\u2026let\u2019s avoid you even getting there.\u201d

\u201dStep 1 is where you have the empathy step\u2026Step 2 is the define the adult concern step\u2026Step 3 is the invitation step where we\u2019re going to invite the kid to consider possible solutions with us that address what they told us in the first step and what we said in the second step.\u201d

\u201cA good solution meets two criteria: it\u2019s got to be realistic\u2026and it\u2019s got to be mutually satisfactory.\u201d

\u201cTune out the noise of all the pressure that people are putting on you\u2026.You know your child.\u201d

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How to Connect with Kim Hopkins-Betts:

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Website: https://livesinthebalance.org/\xa0

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