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On this week\u2019s edition of Soaring Child, we\u2019re joined by child psychologist Lori Long and certified speech language pathologist Katie Severson. They were instrumental in creating the Childhood Collective, designed to empower parents by teaching science-backed strategies to raise confident children with ADHD.

One approach is to look at the ABCs of behavior -- A being antecedent, B being behavior and C being consequences. The antecedent is looking at what occurs before the behavior that might trigger it. The consequence is what happens after the child engages in the behavior and how it serves them. For example, lying could be an avoidance behavior. It\u2019s important to ask kids what\u2019s bothering them and unpack the problem so you can solve it by changing up the antecedents.

Communication is essential in changing behavior, including asking questions like, \u201cWhat\u2019s so hard about this?\u201d or \u201cWhat emotions were you feeling when I asked you to do this?\u201d Instead of punishing your child for a behavior, ask yourself what your child\u2019s need is and what they are communicating to you. The goal is to teach a more desirable behavior to get those needs met.

It's also important to set up routines and really connect with your child by leaning into their interests and helping to build skills, especially their unique executive functioning skills.

Punishment will give you the quickest fix, but it doesn\u2019t teach any new skills, so it won\u2019t help kids in the long run. Teaching new behaviors takes time, but it can be done by using positive language, giving positive feedback, and building them up in a positive way.\xa0 That\u2019s how to make long-term changes in the brain.

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Key Takeaways:

[3:35] What the Childhood Collective is and how it formed

[5:52] The ABCs of behavior

[8:45] The example of lying as an ADHD behavior

[12:08] Example of cleaning up their room

[16:22] Focusing on connection

[17:14] The role of executive functioning

[21:52] Why punishment doesn\u2019t work in the long run

[24:20] The right dose of medication

[25:27] Dealing with homework

[27:33] Using consequences in a positive way

[33:38] Supporting kids with ADHD in school

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How To Connect With Lori & Katie:

www.thechildhoodcollective.com

Instagram: @thechildhoodcollective

Facebook: @childhoodcollective

TikTok: @thechildhoodcollective

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Memorable Quotes:

\u201cThey get to escape something that\u2019s undesirable, and we try and figure that out to understand what they are trying to get and how we can give that to them in a way that's acceptable.\u201d

\u201cInstead of punishing your child for this thing that's maybe not going to be an effective punishment, you're looking at it and saying, what is my child's need here?\u201d

\u201cADHD results in difficulty regulating attention, and when kids are focused on one thing, they're not hearing the other.\u201d

\u201cA punishment will actually give you the quickest fix, but it's also the shortest fix because it doesn't teach any new skills.\u201d

\u201cWe really want parents to think about what could be going on here and how we can change the situation in the beginning and how we can set kids up for success.\u201d

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