In this episode, Gene Demby (co-host of NPR's Code Switch) joins Prudie (Jen\xe9e Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about crushes that are complicated by power dynamics, family secrets about racial identity, and whether loud talking is a cultural issue that could end a relationship.\nIf you want more Dear Prudence, join Slate Plus, Slate\u2019s membership program. Jen\xe9e answers an extra question every week, just for members.\xa0\nGo to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It\u2019s just $15 for your first three months.\xa0\nPodcast production by Se\u2019era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Maura Currie.\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices