880: The Patriarchal Lie of Work/Life Balance
Work-life balance is not a thing.\xa0Not only is it not a thing, but the idea of it is founded on a lie.\xa0It is an idea and philosophy that the Patriarchy feeds to women as something to be desired, something to be attained, something to aspire to.\xa0\xa0\nAs feminism has evolved over the last few decades, many of us have been told that, \u201cThis is your time! Finally, women can have it all.\u201d\xa0Sounds great in theory.\xa0But we have been given no resources and no support.\xa0But without resources, support, and systemic restructuring (philosophical and logistical) there is no way for this to be lived.\xa0It\u2019s an idea and a lie that allows the Patriarchy to look like they care.\xa0Cute, huh?\nWe have been conditioned that because we can have it all, we should go after it all.\xa0And then once we go after it all and fill every millimeter and pore of our metaphorical plates, we should also keep it all balanced in some picture-perfect mathematical ratio - as if our lives are as simple as some sort of formula or squeaky clean quadratic equation.\xa0\xa0\nWe are told if we have better balance, we wouldn\u2019t be so stressed out all the time.\xa0\xa0\nWe are told if we have better balance, we will be better moms and our kids will be more likely to thrive.\xa0\xa0\nWe are told we are lucky to live in an era where we can work full time (if not more) and also parent full time - cramming 48 hours of work into every 24-hour day.\xa0\xa0\nBecause we are told this lie is true and possible, we are left to feel inadequate, guilty, and resentful when we cannot figure out how to make it work.\xa0\xa0\nWhen we are working, we feel guilty that we aren\u2019t parenting.\xa0When we are parenting, we feel guilty that we aren\u2019t working.\xa0\xa0\nIf you feel like you don\u2019t have a work-life balance, it\u2019s because there is no such thing.\xa0You are not the only one who feels inadequate in your constant journey toward this farce.\xa0Millions of us are standing beside you.\xa0And, we are tired too.\xa0\xa0\nThis Greatest Hits episode is an invitation to exhale, see a new truth, and give yourself permission to start living in a reality that allows you to release all feelings of failure and inadequacy because they were never yours to own.\xa0\xa0\n\nWe love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsor\nInterested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com.\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices