864: Permission to Unload the Mental Load of Motherhood

Published: April 10, 2024, 7 a.m.

The mental load of motherhood is the invisible yet relentless responsibilities, from managing household chores to coordinating family schedules, which often fall disproportionately on mothers. This burden not only involves physical tasks but also includes the (often more exhausting) emotional and cognitive labor of anticipating and attending to the needs of their children and family members.\nThe Motherload (aka the mental load of motherhood) includes the 175 running lists you keep in your head in every single moment of #everydamnday.\nIt includes:\n\nevery school form you need to sign tonight\n\nhow much creamer you have left in the fridge\n\nhow many rolls of TP you have in the house\n\nwhen you need to call your\xa0mom\n\nwhat bills you need to pay by next Wednesday\n\nwhen the kids have their next day off school\n\nevery single email you need to reply to today and which ones can wait until tomorrow\n\nwhat time the babysitter is coming on Friday\n\nwhich hotel you need to book for spring break\n\nwhich of your kid\u2019s friends can\u2019t have peanuts\n\nwhich of your kid\u2019s friends you need to buy bday gifts for\n\nwhich socks your kid will NOT wear\n\nhow many pairs of clean undies every single person in the household has left before you have to do laundry again\n\nwhat you\u2019re having for dinner tonight and tomorrow and the next night and the next night and the next night and the next night\n\nwhich kid will eat crusts\n\nwhich kid will eat carrots\n\nHave any of the children had any water today?\n\n\nYou are a living, breathing library of information.\xa0You are basically hosting an entire internet system right inside your head.\nIt\u2019s a lot. Too much. So overwhelming and often maddening.\nAnd sometimes downright unfair.\nThe Motherload is exhausting on so many levels.\nI want to give you some hope.\xa0But I\u2019m going to warn you that this will require some work (I promise to keep it simple!) on your part.\xa0But the work will be REWARDING.\xa0The work will lessen the load!\nWhen it comes to The Motherload, we tend to make it really hard on ourselves.\xa0We get in our own way over and over.\xa0We get stuck in perfectionism and martyrdom, making ourselves completely miserable.\nListen in as I give you 4 methods to manage the madness.\xa0These simple methods are going to dramatically improve your life and create space in your head (who doesn\u2019t need more space in their head?!)\n\nWe love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsor\nInterested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices