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Today we are digging into the truth about resilience.\xa0Resilience has been branded as something that an individual should strive to have when facing adverse conditions.\xa0Resilience has been explained as something one can grow over time - which is true. We do become more resilient as we face more hardships.\xa0But, when we think of resilience in this way, we can quickly see how resilience is then required much more of certain people.\xa0In fact, we see that the most resilience is required of the people with the fewest resources.\xa0This feels backward, doesn\u2019t it?\xa0\xa0\n\nPerhaps we need to look at the roots of the systems that set some folks up to require a lifetime of resilience to merely survive.\xa0\xa0\nWhen we look at resilience through this lens, we see\u2026\nThe system tells you, \u201cPractice resiliency!\u201d when the system was not built with any tools or resources to support your resiliency.\nThe system tells you resiliency is your job alone when the system is beating down and failing large marginalized groups on a mass scale.\nThe system tells you resiliency is about the last few years, all you\u2019ve been through, and how well you\u2019ve adapted. When in truth the system has been beating down women, mothers, POC, and marginalized communities for centuries.\nThe system tells you resiliency is a problem solved through self-care when self-care won\u2019t make any difference if you have to jump right back into the structures that harm you after your bubble bath.\nThe system tells you, \u201cLook at you! You\u2019re strong! You\u2019re adaptable! You\u2019re the model of resilience!\u201d without acknowledging that it has no plans to evolve or change to make your life easier.\xa0Instead, you will have to be your strongest, most adaptable, most resilient self #everydamnday until you die.\nWhen we take on our own resiliency as a personal project, the system keeps winning.\xa0The system is upheld. The system functions exactly as it was intended to.\xa0\nThis episode explores how you can take care of yourself as you try to fit a tiny bandaid (your resiliency habits) on a large wound (the system in which, perhaps, you were never expected to fully succeed.)\n\nLinks mentioned:\n\nJoin my October Retreat for Women Entrepreneurs: Influence & Ignite: Be the CEO and Thought Leader You Were Born to Be: shamelessmom.com/bizretreat\n\n\nBook: Joy is My Justice by Tanmeet Sethi\n\nBook: Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski\n\nBook: Rest is Resistance by Tricia Hersey\n\n\nWe love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessmom.com/sponsor\nInterested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices