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As I\u2019ve worked with women through growth and transformation over the last 20 years, I\u2019ve had countless conversations about partners & spouses who, \u201cjust don\u2019t get it.\u201d\xa0Back when I was working with my personal training clients and boot camp members, women would come to be fraught about spending money without their husband\u2019s approval.\xa0\xa0\nWhen I started running programs inside the SMA, moms came to me so eager to participate but very uncomfortable about talking to their husbands about investing money in an online program with a coach they met on the internet, especially a coach selling \u201cpersonal development for moms\u201d.\nI totally understand that it can be awkward to work on goals that aren\u2019t connected to your partner, especially if you haven\u2019t done that before.\xa0And\u2026 if that\u2019s you, I want to invite you to consider why you haven\u2019t taken steps to work on yourself independently in the past?\xa0Not from a place of judgment, but from a place of genuine curiosity.\xa0\xa0\nAs I\u2019ve helped so many women show up for themselves and step into growth over the last 20 years, I\u2019ve also seen the frustration that comes when you are growing, growing, growing, and hoping your partner will follow suit, and they\u2019re like, \u201cNah, I\u2019m good.\u201d\nThere can be a decent amount of tension when partners are growing in different directions or one partner is committed to growth and the other is not.\xa0\xa0\nAs you\u2019ve become more Shameless as a listener of this show, perhaps you\u2019ve wondered, \u201cHow do I encourage my partner to make some of the changes I\u2019ve made?\u201d\xa0\xa0\nIn today\u2019s episode, I talk through this tension.\xa0The tension of becoming more autonomous.\xa0The tension of codependency.\xa0The tension of doing your own work and letting a partner decide on their own what work they do or don\u2019t do.\xa0\n\nThank you to our sponsors this month:\ncare.com: Get the help you need to make it all work for your family at care.com/book.\xa0\nHello Fresh: Get farm-fresh, pre-portioned meals delivered right to your door!\xa0Go to HelloFresh.com/shameless65 and use code shameless65 for 65% off plus free shipping!\nLast Bottle Wines: Get 10% off your order when you use the code SHAMELESS at lastbottlewines.com.\nLuvbuglearning.com: Support your child\u2019s social-emotional learning with the world's first social-emotional gaming platform.\xa0Go to Luvbuglearning.com and sign up for a 7-day free trial, or simply download from the APP store and subscribe.\nRitual: Ritual\u2019s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months.\xa0Visit ritual.com/shameless10 to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today.\nRothys: For stylish, comfortable, sustainably made shoes, shop Rothy\u2019s. Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/SHAMELESSMOM.\xa0\nStrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast!: Need another podcast in your parenting podcast library, check out StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast! wherever you listen to the SMA.\xa0\nTrain Her Game - Free Training: Moms of teen daughter athletes!\xa0Help your daughter build confidence and overcome negative mindsets in athletics by attending this free training offered by Breanne Smedley, Host of the Elite Competitor Podcast: https://trainhergame.com/shameless\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices