724: Find Your Edges and Sit in the Magic
I had a really hard time relaxing over our holiday break.\xa0I knew January was going to be a big month for me in terms of work opportunities and I was feeling some nerves for sure.\xa0I kept telling myself to \u201cjust relax\u201d until January kicked off, but my anxious brain could not.\xa0If you have an anxious brain like me, perhaps you can relate to how foolishly ineffective it is to tell yourself to \u201cjust relax\u201d.\xa0\nBUT\u2026 Now that we are IN January and I\u2019m IN these opportunities, I\u2019m having a blast.\xa0I\u2019m running right up to some big edges of discomfort as I do new things and I\u2019m having a great time seeing things come together.\xa0\xa0\nAs I was wrapping up last week, I had to remind myself:\n\n\u201cYou are good at figuring out new things.\u201d\n\n\u201cIt feels really great to challenge yourself by finding new professional edges.\u201d\n\n\u201cThe high that comes after reaching a new edge is the best.\u201d\n\n\n\nAs I mentioned, I have an anxious brain.\xa0I excel in worrying about things before they happen.\xa0Sometimes that worry exists for months before an event or life situation and it takes a lot out of me.\xa0I have done a lot of work to minimize this worry, but it definitely still creeps in at times.\xa0\xa0\nI love challenging myself because I love - LOVE - the feeling of achievement.\xa0But I hate the feelings of worry (sometimes even dread) that can precipitate some of the best moments of my life.\xa0One of my top techniques to mitigate this worry is to really sit in the feelings that follow pushing my edges.\xa0I do this with skiing, with uncomfortable conversations, with new leadership opportunities, and when I\u2019m working with new organizations - so pretty much anytime I\u2019m doing something unknown or uncertain!\xa0\xa0\nIn this episode we talk about how to use these questions to lean into the magic of your new edges:\n\nHow did that feel?\n\nHow did you use your skills, gifts, and talents to accomplish what you wanted to accomplish?\n\nWhat does this accomplishment tell you about yourself and the person you are becoming?\n\n\nCheers to a year of new edges, my friend!\n\nThank you to our sponsors this month:\n\nFull-Time VA: Check out this free training on how to be a virtual assistant that makes full-time income with part-time hours: thefulltimeva.com/Shameless.\xa0Owner Amanda Rush Holmes is also including a bonus free guide for SMA listeners -\xa0The VA Kickstarter Workbook!\n\nRitual: Ritual\u2019s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months.\xa0Visit ritual.com/shameless to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today.\n\xa0\nRothys: For stylish, comfortable, sustainably made shoes, shop Rothy\u2019s. Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/SHAMELESSMOM.\xa0\n\nStrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast!: Need another podcast in your parenting podcast library, check out StrollerCoaster: A Parenting Podcast! wherever you listen to the SMA.\xa0\n\nThrive Market: Get groceries and household essentials delivered right to your door.\xa0Join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/shameless.\xa0\n\nTeachable: Join tens of thousands of creators turning their knowledge into scalable online businesses. Join a free plan at teachable.com/shameless to get started.\xa0\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices