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\u2018Tis the season of disappointing other people.\xa0Fa la la la la\u2026.\nAs my platform has grown so has my exposure to judgement.\xa0In my personal and professional life, there are people who have been disappointed in me, even angry with me, over the last year or so.\xa0\nI will be honest with you, this kind of thing used to really eat me up inside.\xa0I\u2019m not going to tell you that I\u2019m super-cool with people being upset with me now.\xa0But I can tell you that I have done a lot of work to be ok with some people being mad at me - and me NOT OWNING their feelings.\xa0\nThe truth is this: a person\u2019s emotions are their own responsibility.\xa0I have repeatedly found that the people who are disappointed in me or angry with me have one or more of these things in common:\n\nA poor sense of self\n\nA general lack of self-awareness\n\nPoor coping skills\n\nA weak or completely lacking support system\n\nFor these folks, I will forgive them in order to make peace in my own life so I can move forward.\xa0I will not make space for their energy or abuse,\xa0In fact, I will actively distance and separate myself from it.\xa0And, most importantly, I will not take responsibility for their emotions.\xa0\nIf I hurt someone or cause someone harm, I will own that and apologize.\xa0I will take radical responsibility for myself and my actions - but not for others reactions to my actions.\nThis is what it looks like to have boundaries.\xa0This is what it looks like to be a grown-up.\xa0It is not easy.\xa0But it is the only way to show all the way up for those who matter most to me.\xa0I would be doing myself and my loved ones a massive disservice if I took on my haters anger or displaced feelings.\xa0The same goes for you.\nHow do you stay in your own way when it comes to other people\u2019s opinions and judgments of you?\xa0You must take radical responsibility for that.\xa0This episode will teach you how.\xa0\nLinks mentioned:\nBook: The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday\n\nThank you to our sponsors:\n\n\nOpenfit: Right now, my listeners get an extended 14-day FREE trial membership to OPENFIT when you text SHAMELESS to 505050.\n\n\nFor All Moms Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fam-for-all-moms/id1494037915\n\n\n\xa0\n\xa0\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices